There’s nothing wrong with being an adopted child. There are many adopted children who have been provided with the warmth of love and care from new parents, albeit surrogate, which would have been denied them if they were not adopted. After adopting a child, most adoptive parents choose not to reveal the identity of the biological parents probably because they do not want to confuse the child about his parents. However, there always comes a time when the child discovers his true origin and as he grows up and matures, he begins to question his ancestry. He thus begins his search for his adoption records to lead him to the source of his birth.
Finding adoption records is tedious but it can be done through the following methods:
- Make sure you are of age when you do your search. The usual case is that certain information may not be disclosed to people less than 18 years of age.
- Ask help from your adoptive parents, as they are the best source of information about your biological family. However you should explain to them that even if you want to find your real parents, it does not mean that you love your adoptive parents less. Explain to them that you just want to have closure in your life by locating your roots. Tell them too that you need to know your genetic background to help you establish your health history.
- Search for the state where you were adopted. Usually, adoption records are confidential and allowed limited access only in many states. However you may be lucky if yours is classified to be a public record as requesting for it is easy. On the other hand if your adoption records are placed under certain restrictions, you may have to get the services of an intermediary to help you get your way to the information you need.
- Get in touch with the adoption agency that facilitated your adoption and know the system on how they discharge adoption records. After verification, a formal letter requesting the agency to release your records should be made.
- Register your name in reunion sites. Reunion registries can connect you with your real parents by following your search and establishing your possible relationship with people based on surnames, schools attended, place of work, nature of job and other pertinent facts.
- Seek out the hospital where you were delivered. Hospitals keep history records of patients even from years back. These records generally contain information on the residence and occupation of patients.
- If your only clue is the family name of your natural parents, try searching in people search websites. You may visit ancestry.com or other websites that offer free services of locating people.
You have a long way to go if you are really serious in looking up adoption records, especially if you have very little hint on who your natal parents are. It takes time, patience and perseverance to be able to get access to records that have been kept from view for many years. However, if you really have faith and belief that you will succeed, your search is not impossible.