Here are some tips to overcome fearful thoughts and emotional states that cause you to retract from others and from your own sense of resourcefulness and joy.
Make giving a regular part of your life! Liberation and empowerment always come dressed in paradox. If you find yourself holding back and holding on, don't spend time stewing. Just give! Give your money, give your time, and give your attention to others (especially those outside your family). Disregard the fearful objecting thoughts of lack and limitation and just do it.
Be kind! Fight for cheerfulness; dismiss shyness or moodiness and practice friendliness. No effort of kindness is too small!
Master your (fearful) mind! This is easier to do when you understand in a vivid, on-the-spot way, the difference between imagination and perception, and the nature of causality.
Perception doesn't cause anything! It is just raw data. For example, receiving a pink slip, or perceiving the imagination that you are about to receive a pink slip, doesn't cause anything. In other words, you do not have to feel afraid. Fear isn't caused by the perception of an outer event or an inner event (thoughts and imaginations). Fear is caused when you move from perception to imagination of consequence (thinking things will only get worse), and then to conviction that you can't handle the consequence and nothing good can come of it (you're screwed!). That "move from" moment is the on-the-spot moment of choice. You can choose to disregard that fear.
Think constructively! Instead of choosing fearful thinking and imagining, you can choose to imagine constructive actions you can take to deal with the perceived event. Don't put yourself down and don't complain. Complaining is a disguised put-down! How is complaining a put-down? In order to complain, you first have to judge yourself not good enough or smart enough to handle the challenge.
You may not think that it's as easy to imagine positive consequences as negative ones, but that is just a function of habit. You can practice imagining positive, constructive outcomes and you can practice brainstorming the means to accomplish them.
Inspiration to create this new habit of constructive imagining and brainstorming increases easily when you realize that fearful thinking, and its resulting contracted mental and emotional states are never required (according to the law of causality) and they never help!
It is always a mistake to choose to give in to fearful thinking. If you take some time to focus on this fact so that you really develop confidence in it, you will readily arouse your aggressive energy to reject fearful thinking and replace it with creative thinking.
Here is an example of how one person chose to trust the paradoxical nature of liberation and empowerment. Many years ago a very successful man shared what he said was his primary secret to success. He said simply, "Whatever direction fear told me to go in, I went in the opposite direction. That made all the difference."
May we all prosper with enhanced compassion and wisdom! Let's make a difference together. Good luck.
© 2008, Jack Elias, www.FindingTrueMagic.com