Whether you loved the job or hated every minute of it, getting fired is a difficult thing to deal with. Quitting a job in order to move on to bigger and better things is a wonderful experience, but when you are told that you are no longer wanted, it is a big blow to your ego. Here are a few tips on dealing with getting fired:
- Vow to bounce back. Although getting fired will surely feel like a kick in the stomach, try not to let it get you down for long. Consider this an opportunity to try something different.
- Look at the reason for your firing and try to see what you could have done differently to avoid it. You will have to be completely honest with yourself. Were you late for work frequently? Did you have a hard time getting along with your coworkers? Was the job too difficult for you? By approaching these questions, you can help yourself to do better at your next job. This can be a learning experience.
- Take responsibility for your actions. You cannot undo the past, but you must go on from here. Don't blame others for your situation, even if you feel that you were unfairly fired. The bottom line is that for some reason, you did not meet your employer's expectations.
- Apologize, if it is warranted. Although it won't get you your job back, mending fences goes a long way toward healing hurt feelings and is a direct reflection of your maturity.
- Ask about your reference. What will your boss say about you if he is called for a reference? If possible, ask that he just confirms dates of employment and pay rate.
- Improve your situation. Take a class or enroll in a workshop to help you improve your marketability. If you need to improve your "people skills," consider enrolling in a class that specializes in increasing your confidence and interpersonal communications. Many companies offer these classes--one of the more well-known is Dale Carnegie Training.
- Get back into the job market immediately. Waiting and worrying will make it more difficult to get back on track. Put in some applications, send out some resumes, and network with family and friends.
- Be honest. If the topic of your firing comes up at a job interview, be honest, but stress what you learned from the situation. Saying, "My boss was a big jerk" will not help you to land another job. Own up to your actions, but note that although you were wrong, you have taken steps to improve your behavior and attitude.
- Take heart. Many people have been fired--you are not the first and you are surely not going to be the last. Even some very successful people have, at one time or another, been let go from a job. Some famous people who have been fired: Michael Bloomberg, Muhammad Ali, Billie Jean King, Jesse Ventura, Joe Torre, Larry King, Lee Iacocca, and Robert Redford. Feel better?