It is human nature to grieve and sympathize with other people who have lost a loved one. Although no amount of empathy can make a person feel better in a time of grief, we take it among ourselves to at least let them know that we understand their pain. Expressing your sympathy to a grieving person can be done in many ways.
Send sympathy flowers. Funeral flowers also known as sympathy flowers are the most common gifts people give to a grieving person or family as an expression of their condolences. A lot of online and local flower shops offer a variety of elaborate flower arrangement options. You can choose from casket sprays, bouquets, funeral wreaths and baskets.
- In sending flowers, make sure that you are able to properly address and sign the sympathy card after writing a short message or quotation.
- If you are planning to make an online purchase, make sure that you have properly indicated the address where the flowers are to be delivered. Depending on the religion or the preference of the family, funerals are held in their churches or their homes. Indicate clearly your sympathy message for the family or for the grieving person.
- If you do not personally know the deceased but you are acquainted to a family member or a relative, you may directly send your gift to their home address.
You can also give sympathy baskets which often include grocery items, fresh fruits or gourmet items. You can have this sent directly to the grieving person's home or office.
Give monetary donation. In cases where the family has a particular request to accept monetary donations for a charitable institution they serve, you can write a check for that particular charity with a note indicating that you are offering the check as a contribution in the memory of the deceased. Do not forget to include your address and that of the grieving person's or the bereaved family and both your contact information so that the institution would know where to send their acknowledgement of your check donation.
Offer a mass card. A mass card is a religious card that you can give to the grieving person or his/her family. This card will state that you have requested your parish church to offer a mass in memory or for the eternal repose of their departed's soul.
You can request for a mass card from your parish church or priest. You will have to make a donation, usually $20 or less, so they can offer special intentions for the dead during one of their scheduled masses. If you are able to fill out and make your contribution, they can readily give you a mass card, which you will then have to give to the grieving person when you visit the wake.
There are some religious sects that do not allow sympathy flowers and foods during the wake, so make sure to confirm first and make sure that you are familiar with the religion and traditions of the grieving person or the bereaved family before sending your present.