What is self–confidence? It is the trust you give to yourself when faced with a difficult situation, task or problem. Without it, it would be impossible for anybody to look at life in a more positive and realistic perspective. Positive because you know you are equipped with the right tools, and realistic because you know what is possible and impossible.
Self-confident people don’t easily get depressed when things don’t work for them the way they expected. Instead, they try to fit with the situation. This assertiveness makes it possible for them to avoid stress and be more productive. Timid people as opposed to the confident people let the situation take over, which results in inefficiency. It is also a lot easier for people with self-confidence to relate with others. Timid people often feel insecure with others and consider them as a threat or rival. With this mentality, they create a defense mechanism that separates them from the rest. This isolation makes it hard for others to reach out for them.
Self-confidence is not inborn. It is learned and developed. It starts from our home and our relationship with our family. Our environment and the community help us build it.
Self-confidence is measured by how we handle ourselves in front of others and how we perform when tasks are given to us. When you lack confidence, it doesn’t mean that you can no longer improve. There are a number of ways that would help you boost it. Organizations that provide courses and programs on how to gain self-confidence and improve self-image have been formed. There are even poems and quotes that would inspire you on improving confidence.
Here are some simple tips that would help you boost your confidence:
- Know and accept who you are. If you know your skills, where and when to use them, you will be able to turn situations to your advantage. On the other hand, accepting your weaknesses will help you find ways to improve them.
- Avoid comparing yourself to others. Each person is unique. You don’t have to ask yourself why you can’t wear the same dress that your friend is wearing or why your grade is lower than your seatmate. This practice will just make you look at yourself with pity.
- Consider your past experiences as an asset and not a failure. When things didn’t worked out for you, don’t act like the world stops spinning. Try to evaluate your actions and learn from your error.
- Expand experiences with calculated risk. Do not contain yourself with the same path. Gain as many experiences as you can, and equip yourself with them in the future.
- Communicate your ideas with others. Start communicating with others by sharing ideas and opinions. By doing so, others will look at you as someone they can talk to with sense.
- Accept facts. Looking at and analyzing things by your own criteria sometimes ends up in disappointment. Analyze situations more objectively and come up with a realistic result.
Again, self-confidence is not inborn. So quit feeling sorry and gear yourself with confidence.