Thinking about popping the question? Make sure you do it right! Here are some things to think about before making your move.
- Is she/he the one? You want to be absolutely certain on this key aspect. If you just met and are filled with the new love flutters, don't jump the gun! Give it time so you can get to know your partner and determine if you could have a stable, long-term relationship.
- Talk to your other half. Make sure marriage is something you both want and know what each other expects from a marriage. This is a big commitment so you want to make sure you have the same goals and ideas of what a strong marriage is made of. Talk about major issues such as finances and if you both want to hear the pitter patter of little feet one day.
- Talk to her family. Sure, asking permission is a bit outdated, but talking to her family to let them know your wishes shows respect and that you want to be a part of the family. You don't have to just stick to her dad, talk to her mom, siblings and step-parents too. Make it important for everyone as they will be a big part of your lives moving forward.
- Find the ring. If you both know it will happen, it's just a matter of when. Ask her what style of ring she prefers. Maybe she can point out a picture and let you know if she wants a princess cut or emerald cut. Maybe she prefers platinum over gold. She will wear it every day for the rest of your lives so finding the perfect ring is important. If it's a surprise, many stores allow you to select a set, then exchange it for the one she wants.
- Devise a proposal plan. You want it to be memorable and perfect. Keep these thoughts in mind:
Propose! When you pop the question let her know why she is so amazing, how she has changed your life and how you couldn't imagine a day without her in it. Spend some time reflecting on your engagement then take out the cell phone. Time to share the big news!
- Surprise her. She may know its coming but doesn't know when. Lead her on to believe you are doing something entirely different that day and propose when it is least expected.
- Make it intimate. This special moment is between you, not between you and her family or several thousand people at the baseball game.
- Make it special. Think about what you both love and try to incorporate your tastes. You can be cliché and hide it in the cake at dinner, but that's been done thousands of times. Do you both love the outdoors? Go camping and ask her under the moonlight by the campfire. Do you love to scuba dive? Have the boat captain hold the ring and surprise her after a dive. Adding some creativity and incorporating what you both enjoy will make it even more memorable.
Things to consider:
- Don't worry if you memorized the proposal and you loose your words. Wing it! Just speak from the heart.
- Don't be nervous. This is a time to be solid and show her this is what you really want.
- If she doesn't say yes immediately, don't take it the wrong way. She may just need some time to think it over. It is a lifetime commitment after all!