Being a parent is hard work. Let's face it -- there really is no other job that is quite so difficult but so rewarding at the same time! Parents struggle on a daily basis with being positive when guiding and disciplining their children.
Positive parenting requires parents to change their parenting techniques from negative to positive, thereby improving a child's mental health and behavior. Positive parenting allows parents to help develop social skills in their children, trains parents to talk instead of yell, encourages the use of constructive criticism instead of punishment, shows how to use time-outs instead of physical consequences, and gives examples of how to redirect your child rather than focus on what the child may be doing that is negative.
All of these can be taught to parents who feel this type of parenting would be beneficial. The parent must find ways to learn about positive parenting techniques, and then implement these skills in their everyday lives with their children.
- If you are struggling with being positive as a parent, ask your physician or your child's pediatrician for help. So many parents think that doctors are only knowledgeable about health-related issues. We forget that physicians also know where to send a parent seeking help in the parenthood department. Your physician should be able to lead you in the right direction, one that is pointed towards positive parenting. A doctor may know of different offerings in your city or town that focus on positive parenting. If the doctors don't know specifics, they most likely can help you find people who will provide details.
- Another good resource when trying to learn positive parenting is your local community college classes. Many times community colleges offer different types of parenting classes, and very often these classes focus on being a positive parent. One sure way to learn the skills needed to parent positively is to take a class about it. Classes may vary from free to a minimal fee and may vary from a one-time offering to several sessions. If you want to learn positive parenting, find a class and sign up!
- If taking a class with other parents isn't your cup of tea, or you simply don't have the time to do it, why not try an online class? Parents may be surprised to learn just how many online positive parenting classes are offered nowadays! By taking an online course, you can learn how to become more positive in your parenting skills, and you may be able to learn it at your own pace, in the privacy of your own home! Online courses, such as the one found at Lifetime To Learn, can help turn your parenting skills into something more positive. Yes, there may be a fee for these types of classes, but parents who are serious about changing how they raise their children may need to sacrifice a few dollars to develop healthier techniques.
- If you do have some financial concerns, and honestly can't pay a lot of money to learn positive parenting skills, why not try doing an Internet search on how to parent positively? By typing in "Positive Parenting," you will bring up thousands of sites that offer suggestions. Some of these sites are free. It may take a bit of time and research on your part, but may also be worth your time in the end when you implement the strategies mentioned on the sites you visited.
- Parenting books are yet another option when trying to learn positive parenting. There are so many parenting books out there and thousands of them deal with how to parent in a positive way. If you can't afford to purchase a book, why not see what your local library has to offer? There are so many wonderful books to be read about positive parenting, such as The Power of Positive Parenting: A Wonderful Way to Raise Children by Glenn I. Latham, or Positive Discipline A-Z, Revised and Expanded 2nd Edition: From Toddlers to Teens, 1001 Solutions to Everyday Parenting Problems by Jane Ed.D. Nelsen, et al. These books prove to be sound investments when learning about positive strategies for parenting.
Parenting isn't easy. Being positive to your children when they are acting up or acting out sometimes seems impossible. By learning how to be a positive parent you can take what may seem to be an impossible situation and make it into a learning situation. The first step is finding the resources to teach you the skills it takes to parent positively.