Most moms would like nothing better for Mother's Day than the chance to spend time with their kids. If you live close enough to see your mom on Mother's Day, there are certainly many ways the two of you can celebrate together. Here are a few things to consider if you're planning to celebrate Mother's Day with your mom.
- Consider what she likes. Whenever a holiday comes up and we begin making plans, it's always tempting to create some Hallmark "ideal" in our minds, instead of thinking about the people actually involved and what they might like. On Mother's Day, it's "all about mom," so keep in mind what your mother likes. If she's the type who enjoys going out, take her somewhere. If she'd prefer a visit at home from you and the grandkids or something like that, stop by and visit. If she's an outdoorsy type, you might want to take her to one of her favorite nature sanctuaries. If she doesn't like a lot of fuss, don't get her a huge gift. You know your mom; plan a day she'd like. And make sure to check with her to see what time is good, too. If you stop by her house and she's out with your brother, that's no fun. If you can't get together on Mother's Day specifically, don't worry, just get together for a special day when you can.
- Show appreciation. Along with selling cards and flowers, the purpose of Mother's Day is to show moms around America how appreciated they are. While spending time with mom in itself will probably let her know you're thankful for all she does, take some time to make that feeling specifically known. Again, do so according to what your mom likes. If she isn't into "mushy" cards, a simple hug and a "thanks for all you do" might be good. If she loves to have mementos or pictures of the family around, you could create a collage or scrapbook of special things relating to how she helps other people in the family. Just take some time, in some way, to make sure she knows you appreciate the work she's done being your mom, which you'd have to admit, isn't always the easiest task.
- Keep the peace. Family togetherness can be a great thing, but it can also cause standing issues - either serious or trivial - to resume. One thing your mom does not need on Mother's Day is you and your brother arguing about how his girlfriend is a jerk, or a rehash of how your sister spoiled Thanksgiving, or any other ongoing conflict. Talk to whomever will be involved in your Mother's Day festivities and call a truce, for mom's sake. And if the friction tends to be between you and mom, do your best to not engage in combat, put aside the pet peeve list, and use this day as a chance to silently let go of all the grudges you've been holding against the woman since she gave you a bowl cut when you were seven.
- Save a memory. Mother's Day has varying degrees of importance to people, but if you've made the effort to commemorate the day, why not create some kind of keepsake for it. Take a snapshot of the family, plant some spring flowers, give her a small gift she can use day to day or can at least take out again each Mother's Day. A nice reminder of a day where her family made an effort to appreciate her will probably meet with much appreciation from mom.
- Send something special. If you can't celebrate in the same place as your mom, Mother's Day flowers or a card are traditional reminders that you're thinking of her. But you could always take it one step further and send her something non-traditional that she'd like better - a book, a rosebush, tickets to a show, something she's wanted for a while. If your Mother's Day celebration takes place in two separate locales, you can still let her know you're really thinking of her.
Mother's Day can be whatever you want it to be, or whatever you want it to be for your mom. Just plan with her, and her enjoyment, in mind.