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How To Know if It's Time to Marry

Teachforever — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 19:46:14 -0600

I'm sure that you are very excited about the prospect of becoming married, but have you considered at least the following 5 questions before you say, "I Do"?

How To Give a Foot Massage

Deirdre — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 14:38:12 -0500

For some there is nothing more relaxing at the end of the day than a foot massage. There is an entire practice of massage called reflexology that concentrates on massaging the feet in order to relieve symptoms throughout the body. You don't need to practice reflexology to give a foot massage; you just need to follow these steps.

How To Take the First Steps Towards Creating a Fabulous Marriage

StephenSimes — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 11:53:43 -0500

How To Become Partners in Pleasure

StephenSimes — Sat, 13 Sep 2008 22:17:49 -0500

How To Be Fully Engaged in your Marriage

StephenSimes — Sat, 13 Sep 2008 22:08:13 -0500

How To Maintain Romance

Deirdre — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 01:01:19 -0500

It is easy to become complacent when involved in a long-term relationship. In these situations, partners often become comfortable with each other and with a routine. But with effort and attention, you can avoid relationship laziness and marital discord; follow these steps to maintain romance.

How To Avoid Court and Divorce Lawyers

belindaesq — Sat, 26 Jul 2008 00:43:04 -0500

How To Convince Your Husband to Get a Puppy

Kidwriter — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 15:37:19 -0500

With two cats and two horses, the last thing my husband wanted was another animal! But, the kids and I did. We wanted a puppy. We put our beloved dog down two years ago, and our home has not been the same. We missed Max. Now it was time to get another dog. Convincing my husband of this was not easy, but now he loves our new dog dearly and we couldn't imagine our home without him--the dog that is!

Ease into the discussion. It's not a good idea to be demanding and tell your husband you want a puppy and you don't care what he thinks. He might be all for it, and he might not be. Start bringing up the subject here and there. If you're at the mall, swing by the pet store and croon over the puppies. Ask him which one he likes. Note what his reaction is to the puppies. By the way, never buy your puppy at a pet store. Most come from inhumane puppy mills!

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How To Have a Loving Relationship

angeleyez320 — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 11:56:19 -0600

Remember this "how to" is subjective. What works for one person may not work for all. I have been married for six years. Everyday I feel closer and closer to my husband. I couldn't imagine life without him.

Here are some pointers that work for my husband and me:

How To Mend a Broken Heart

bambam — Fri, 11 Jan 2008 17:25:38 -0600

Don't worry or analyze why your heart got broken. There is no use crying over spilt milk. Stuff happens, and then we learn to breathe again! Move on and focus on your own healing. Whatever you focus on, you will attract into your life. Whatever has access to your mind will eventually have access to your life. Besides, if you don't learn to deal with your emotions, they will deal with you. They will control your moods, actions, habits, mentality, mind-set (your way of thinking) and well-being. To mend your broken heart, you need to learn some coping skills. A coping skill is a behavioral tool for overcoming your pain, regardless of what caused it. Here are my top ten tips for your emotional healing....

How To Share Relationship Roles

johnschurmann — Fri, 11 Jan 2008 16:08:26 -0600

Why Roles Are Important?

Roles relate to how couples handle leadership responsibilities and divide household tasks.
As a couple, you will be involved in an almost endless number of activities and responsibilities.
Each couple must discuss together and decide who is most competent to do which tasks.
Roles must be defined around interests and skills, not on traditional roles.

What Does History Tell Us?

How To Know the Rules and Skills of the Love Game

johnschurmann — Fri, 14 Dec 2007 12:56:07 -0600

What are the Basic Rules?

How To Build and Strengthen Your Love Relationship

johnschurmann — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 15:22:50 -0600

Have you ever tried learning a new language or skill without using reading and exercise materials? I don't think so. Yet, most of us build a love relationship without proper training. The following love relationship worksheet will help you to improve your relationship skills.

RELATIONSHIP WORKSHEET

How To Maintain a Military Marriage

Casey47 — Mon, 12 Nov 2007 17:43:10 -0600

So you've fallen in love with a military man. As romantic as the notion seems, you are soon going to find out that it's not all sunshine and roses! Maintaining a solid relationship with a military boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife can not only be very stressful, but it can also be lonely. However, it is also a type of relationship that can thrive and grow with every passing moment. As long as both parties are willing and strong, it can be a beautiful thing.

Once you find yourself in a military relationship, you often find yourself halfway across the world, not only away from your significant other, but away from your family as well. Your situation may vary a bit, especially if you have children.

Communication

How To Keep Your Man From Cheating

Lorats1 — Thu, 01 Nov 2007 13:01:36 -0500

I've heard this so many times. I've seen it plastered on women's faces, like some sort of billboard of pain. I wiped away my own tears about it in the past.

It's ugly, it's isolating. It's shaming.

And it's everywhere.

That bug.

That "I can't keep it in my pants" bug.

And it seems like it just strikes out of nowhere. Like a flu. As if your man could get sneezed on, and the next thing you know, he has some tramp's legs around his waist.

YEAH, I SAID IT!

And if you've been there, you've thought it yourself.

And it kind of goes like this:

How To Prolong Your Sex Life

premansu_chand — Wed, 17 Oct 2007 23:11:20 -0500

Generally, those who talk about spiritualism or religious discourses don't talk about sex. In most religions, sex is considered as a wrong or negative action, if not a sin. For this reason, many of those who devote their lives to the service of God keep themselves away from sex. However, ancient Indian saints and sages who gave great spiritual knowledge to mankind were all married. Their future generations also led ascetic lives and gave further spiritual knowledge; sex was not a taboo for them. This is because they were truly spiritual. They had realized Self and acted in accordance with what Self wanted. There were no religious dictates or inhibitions. So we should give up blind prejudices against sex and accept the virtues of sex.

Looking for the most comprehensive sex guide on the internet? We recommend Sex God Secrets.

How To Spot a Liar

JohnStejskal — Thu, 11 Oct 2007 18:06:52 -0500

The techniques bellow will show you how to tell if you are being lied to. These techniques are used by government agencies for interrogation. They can easily be utilized in relationships and in business situations. To make successful use of these indicators, it helps to know the suspect's ‘normal' body language and reactions to different situations.

How To Stay Married 50 Years

Violet Camp — Thu, 27 Sep 2007 13:00:58 -0500

How many people do you know who have been married fifty years? They usually show up in your local paper with a 'before and after' picture - look pretty good too! Marriage is not a new thing. God prepared a helpmate for Adam and they stayed together one hundred and thirty years. So what's fifty? Many preachers, authors, and counselors say the family is in crises. This is so. Couples wage a battle for their very existence. We must commit to our marriage. It's our lifeline.

Some studies show the main cause of divorce is money or sex. When you married were you rich? Were you without passion? We may marry for convenience, but we stay together for love. Time is essential for love to mature in our heart and attitude.

Causes of Conflict:

How To Have the Spirit of Forgiveness in an Unforgiving World

candace58 — Tue, 04 Sep 2007 13:36:59 -0500

Forgive! The word of God has commanded us to have a spirit of forgiveness. But you might say that this is easier said than done. Imagine what the world would be like if there was not a spirit of forgiveness. If every human being on the planet Earth walked around lacking a spirit of forgiveness, this world would be full of sadness and deep sorrow. An incredible darkness would swallow up all joy and happiness. The spirit of offense would run rampant upon the earth. There would be no love, no families, no oneness, no union and no harmony. It would be a world full of chaos. A lack of forgiveness leads to bitterness, and bitterness leads to hatred, and hatred leads to chaos and confusion. A lack of forgiveness is like a strong fortress that can hardly be conquered or broken down. But the inability to forgive can be mastered and outwitted. How?

How To Revive Your Relationship

Staff468 — Tue, 24 Jul 2007 14:57:25 -0500

It feels good to be in a committed relationship, doesn’t it? But after a while, you can sometimes get so comfortable that you no longer take the effort to make your partner feel special. If you want to maintain the spark, it’s important not to take your partner for granted. Here are a few questions to assess whether or not you’ve become too comfortable in your relationship and some tips on what you can do to revive your relationship if you have.

How To Confront a Cheating Spouse

Vanessa264 — Wed, 13 Jun 2007 13:10:18 -0500

There is really only one golden rule when it comes to confronting a cheating spouse. And that is……no violence. Here are a few other tips on how to confront a cheating spouse.

How To Recognize the Signs of Cheating Men

Vanessa264 — Wed, 13 Jun 2007 12:58:29 -0500

Is it all men…or only some? And most important, what about yours? Here are some tips to help you recognize the signs of cheating men:

How To Survive the Aftermath of Divorce

Vanessa264 — Wed, 25 Apr 2007 16:15:00 -0500

Chances are that your divorce has lasted a year or more and has been full of tension and drama. It's all over now and you're awaiting that giant sigh of relief that you've been expecting. But wait, instead of relief, you feel.........like a wreck. Don't be surprised: Feeling unhinged following your divorce is simply a natural and expected part of the divorce process.

Remember that you've been coping with a lot this last year-mountains of paperwork, regular calls and meetings with your lawyer, sometimes challenging interaction with your ex, and a distressed child for whom you've been holding it all together. All this on top of the usual stresses of everyday life, and let's not forget that all-important job! Even if you've been taking your B vitamins regularly, all this stress has been adding up. Now.....it's payback time. Here are a few tips to help you better cope with the emotional aftermath of divorce.

How To Understand Child Custody Laws

Malcolm161 — Tue, 27 Feb 2007 18:09:00 -0600

Perhaps one of the hardest things to deal with at the end of a marriage is the impact that the divorce will have on the children. Even under the best of circumstances, there will be the need for both the custodial and non-custodial parent to understand the nature of their continuing responsibilities to any children they share. While it maybe very easy to grasp the ethical responsibility they continue to share in regard to the well being of the children, the task of understanding the applicable child custody laws and the legal conditions that are now part of the picture may be more difficult. Here are a few tips to help you get information that will help you unravel the mystery of child custody laws.

How To Throw a Divorce Party

Malcolm161 — Tue, 27 Feb 2007 18:05:00 -0600

While a divorce is often an event that is filled with a lot of hurt and remorse, the fact is that some people experience a great deal of relief that a bad situation is now behind them. In cases like this, the only logical thing to do is throw a divorce party. Here are a few things to think about should the need arise to pull together a divorce party for yourself or a friend.

The great thing about a divorce party is there are not a lot of traditions that one has to observe. You can make the party into anything that you want it to be. For example, you can have a beautiful seven-course sit-down affair followed with drinks and a piano in the background. Or you may want to go with balloons, confetti, a buffet loaded with foods that taste great and are bad for you, accompanied with the loudest and most lively music you can find. It's your party and it can have any tone you want it to have.

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How To Find Divorce Support Groups

Malcolm161 — Tue, 27 Feb 2007 17:56:00 -0600

When you've gone through the end of a marriage, chances are you will need help to mourn what could have been and start putting together a new life for yourself. While your family and close friends will be there to help you through this rough spot, they will only be able to do so much for you. Much of what you are feeling and dealing with is not something they have first-hand knowledge about. What you need is a divorce support group.

Even if you live in a small town, chances are there is at least one divorce support group in the area. Here are a few tips to help you located any of the groups that may be within a reasonable distance of your home.

How To Deflect Questions About Your Divorce

Vanessa264 — Thu, 18 Jan 2007 14:18:00 -0600

Divorce is a wonderful way to discover your true friends. These will be the ones letting you run the emotional gamut from a to z and back again in sixty-second spans as they watch without batting an eyelash. These will be the people who remain utterly convinced of your fundamental soundness and emotional resilience even when you're not so sure yourself.

Divorce is a wrenching time, a time that you need all the extra support you can get. I hope you have a friend like this, because a friend like this will talk you through many of your worst divorce experiences simply by reminding you of who you really are. But if you don't, I'll share with you here what a friend like this might say about how to answer questions you're likely to encounter as you navigate your way through your divorce.

How To Understand Father Visitation Rights

Malcolm161 — Sun, 14 Jan 2007 12:59:00 -0600

If you are a non-custodial father, you no doubt find yourself bewildered with what can be a convoluted and often unclear situation. Knowing exactly what rights you have under the law can be a daunting task. To help you gather data that is relevant to your situation, here are a few ideas on just how to understand visitation rights.

One of the first things to understand is that the foundational document governing the process of visitation is the court ruling itself. Often, that is where your minimum rights of visitation will be spelled out, including any particular conditions relating to when you may begin a visit and when the visit is to end. Depending on the relationship that you cultivate with your former spouse, you may be able to work out more frequent visitation, but keep in mind those extras are not guaranteed and take place only because of the willingness of the custodial parent.

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How To Find the Perfect Valentine's Day Card

Vanessa264 — Fri, 12 Jan 2007 18:42:00 -0600

Guys, you know there's a lot riding on this. Chances are you're reading this article because you've gotten it wrong once before. So here are a few things you should know about choosing a Valentine's Day card that will keep you out of the doghouse and in your beloved's good graces.

Out of the Doghouse

By all means, do get a card. No matter what, get her a card! I don't care if you bought her a lifetime supply of Godiva chocolate, you still need a card. If the gift you bought her comes with a cute heart-shaped card of its own that is part of the packaging, you need a card. If you're not exactly sure of your relationship status, get her a card (just choose one on the lighthearted end of the spectrum).

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How To Find Grants for Single Mothers

Kaye305 — Tue, 21 Nov 2006 06:22:00 -0600

Single mothers often carry a financial burden that can be overwhelming. Not only do many single mothers carry the responsibility of raising children without the help of a companion; they also carry the responsibility of caring for their children financially. Being a single mother can also put a damper on a woman's plans to go back to school to get that degree she needs to improve her financial situation.

Many single mothers don't realize that there is assistance out there for them, often in the form of grants. There are grants that are awarded to single moms to relieve financial strain or to head back to school. You just have to know where to look for assistance. Remember, 30 million people will receive government money this year alone. I personally recommend you check out DollarGrants -- it's definitely a good place to start.

How To Use Conflict Resolution in Your Relationship

Kaye305 — Tue, 15 Aug 2006 06:46:00 -0500

Relationships are hard work. Many times throughout the duration of a relationship, there are conflicts. How you handle these conflicts is important to keeping your relationship happy and secure. Conflict resolution is often recommended by counselors when advising couples on how to handle situations that may potentially cause a problem. How can you use conflict resolution in your relationship?

How To Rebuild Your Marriage

Kaye305 — Wed, 26 Jul 2006 17:48:00 -0500

Trust is perhaps one of the most important elements of a marriage. What happens when that trust is broken by one or even both of the people in a marriage? A marriage may implode, and unfortunately, may end up in divorce. Other times, a trust may not be broken, but a couple has grown apart over the years. How can you get past the issues that caused the pain or the distancing in the first place? Regardless of your particular circumstances, this list of suggestions can help you to rebuild and repair your marriage.

How To Find Online Resources and Assistance for Single Moms

Susie254 — Fri, 12 May 2006 07:55:00 -0500

Being a single mom can be rewarding and stressful. It may seem as if everything is on your shoulders. In some ways, this may be true. However, you don't have to handle everything alone! It is important that single moms build a good support system. While of course, you are the primary caregiver to your child, and you are the main supporter of your family, you should have others around you who can help out at times. This may include friends, co-workers, and family members.

There are actually several different areas that single moms can look for assistance, and some of these can be found online. Look for support groups in your community. If you aren't sure where to begin, you can ask your doctor's office or pediatrician for the names of area groups that are made up of single moms. You can also contact the local YMCA and your city's Chamber of Commerce. Don't forget to check the yellow pages of your local phone book, too. For online resources, check out the following:

How To Throw a Great 50th Wedding Anniversary Party

Victoria116 — Mon, 08 May 2006 09:44:00 -0500

A 50th wedding anniversary is a big milestone for any married couple. The 50th wedding anniversary is often known as the Golden Anniversary--and it should be celebrated with family, friends and loved ones. Here are some tips on how to throw a great 50th wedding anniversary party:

How To Raise Children of Divorce

Wed, 03 May 2006 20:12:00 -0500

In some of the old sitcoms like Leave It to Beaver and Father Knows Best, family life was portrayed as a relatively simple equation: a mother and a father living together with their children. While this may be one interpretation of a family, today, many other scenarios also exist. Children of divorce might be living with one parent, splitting their time between two, or living in a blended family. If you are a parent who is going through a divorce and are worried about how your children will cope with change, the good news is that most kids are resilient and will adapt to the changes. Here are some factors to consider when raising children after a divorce:

Remember that most children will do better living in a home with one parent who is happy than two parents who are miserable and fight all of the time.

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How To Improve Communication in Marriage

Jacqueline68 — Sat, 29 Apr 2006 15:58:00 -0500

Communicating with a spouse can be tricky and when you throw in the stresses of everyday life, it can feel downright impossible. Here are a few steps to help navigate the process.

How To Save Your Marriage

Ashtyn198 — Fri, 28 Apr 2006 11:36:00 -0500

Marriage problems can be devastatingly painful and difficult to overcome. Knowing that you may be losing the person you love is hard on anyone. However, if there is a chance you can do something to save that relationship, then you should do whatever you can. You might feel powerless to improve the situation, but you must try. If you make no attempt to save your relationship, it will eventually end.

The good news is that as bleak as the situation may seem, there is always hope. Do your best to keep yourself together and concentrate on the immediate, positive goal of saving your marriage.

Every marital relationship is unique. In your pursuit of marital harmony and a healthier bond with your spouse, you may find the following advice very helpful.

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How To Find Help for Marriage Problems

Ashtyn198 — Sat, 22 Apr 2006 00:47:00 -0500

If you are part of a couple and your marriage is in trouble you may be wondering what can be done to fix your marriage problems. You may have considered calling a counselor or just trying to work it out on your own. No matter what route you choose, if you are trying to work it out you are on the right path.

Depending on the level of marriage problems you have, it can be hard work to heal your marriage. Over 50% of marriages fail. This statistic is not pleasant to think about, but it is true. The main thing you need to keep in mind is that your marriage is important to you. Otherwise, you would not be looking for help in the first place. You would have just given up on one another.

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How To Rekindle Romance In a Marriage

Danielle16 — Thu, 02 Feb 2006 15:26:00 -0600

Have a once-a-week date night. Leave the kids at home, and enjoy time together as a couple. Hold hands, chat, flirt, and do all the things you've always wanted to do alone. Have burger and fries at the diner or watch a movie. Try to leave all talk about work behind you, relax and enjoy.

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