Children nowadays are so hard to please especially grown-ups. House rules are being ignored and at times they just give you a nod or a smile to let you know that they are taking note of it.
Most of the time, parents ask themselves if they deserve this kind of treatment; the worst case is the "silent treatment." The truth is, parents have nothing to do with these occurrences. According to family experts, this behavior is very common in young adults and this is just a process. So, if one day, your grown up kid tells you that he wants to live independently, let him go and encourage him to find what he wants. In the end, if everything fails, your child will come back to your home because he knows that he is on a safe ground.
Nevertheless, there are ways to cope up with the silent treatment from the young adults:
- Never stop communicating with them. It might be hard at first that you feel being ignored but as parents we should understand that in one way or the other, our children need their own space. Perhaps, your children might feel that nothing special happened in his day and would like to keep mum about it. If you feel that this is the case, talk to him about anything under the sun so he will feel comfortable even without great stories to share.
- Don't make them feel guilty. Usually to catch the attention of our grown-up kids, we make them feel sorry for what they have done. Stop giving them the drama of their lives. Disobeying the house rules for instance doesn't mean that parents are taken for granted. Children know this by heart and are accountable for their actions. As an alternative, make your child feel that despite the petty incidents he committed, you are still there to give him all your understanding.
- Give gifts straight from the heart. Parents are aware of the gifts they give to their children and sometimes if a child forgets to give something in return, they pity themselves. Why not loosen up since this is not the best time for a confrontation? It can be frustrating but what's important at that moment is your child is there with you. Maybe your child doesn't have enough resources to give you presents and the only thing that he can afford right now is to make up for the lost time.
- Don't be manipulative. During your younger years, you also committed mistakes and this helped you become a better person. If your young adult is carrying out the same mistake, share your viewpoints. You might be greeted with a poker face but at least you did what you had to do.
- Grown-ups think they know it all. This is the reason they disregard parent's advices. Give your child space to try on their own in order for them to stand on their own feet, and you'll be surprised to see them thanking you.
- Treat them the way they like to be treated. This is the phase that your grown up child thinks that he is mature enough to handle things so let him be. Just reassure your child of your utmost support and make him feel that no matter what has happened he is well-loved.
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