Fighting between children and parents is very common. Though arguing with your parents is not at all recommended, there would be a lot of situations when you will need to voice out your feelings especially when your parents are wrong with their decisions or opinions. For your parents to take notice and actually listen to what you have to say, you should learn how to disagree properly with your folks. Here are some simple steps that will show you how to argue with your parents the proper way:
- Choose when to argue. As the saying goes, choose your battles wisely. Know when you should argue with your parents or not. It is most unwise to get into a heated argument when you know what you are saying is absolutely not right. If you keep arguing despite knowing that you are wrong, then your parents may not take you seriously every time you talk to them even if you are right. Do not argue for the sake of arguing.
- Acknowledge that you understand what your parents feel. When in a discussion with your folks, make sure that you let them know that you actually understand where they are coming from. It is important for any person, especially for parents to know that other people recognize the point they are driving at. In cases when you do not get what they are trying to say, then ask and clarify further what it is that your mom or dad is trying to tell you.
- Voice out what you feel after acknowledging your parents’ point. Organize your thoughts properly, and choose your words carefully. You can use phrases such as “I know you feel this way, but...” Make sure that your tone is polite and not accusatory or resentful. Show them that you respect their opinion, however, you also have your own.
- Patiently wait for your parents' reply. Do not show your impatience or tell your parents to hurry up in giving you a response to the points you made. Do not make faces or roll your eyes as you wait for an answer. Take the time to think of what your next step will be in case your parents' response is not what you want.
- Talk to your parents the way you talk to your teachers or boss. Make sure that all your facts are correct and accurate. You should sound intelligent and mature. Do not let your wrong emotions overcome you. Sometimes, just because you do not want to accept your parents’ idea, you have the tendency yell or scream at their face. This will only lead to misunderstanding.
There would always be disagreements between you and your parents. It is always important that you remain respectful, and phrase your thoughts well when arguing. It is always wise to keep your temper and emotions in check when making your opinions heard. Parents would hear you out as long as you are able to properly voice out your concerns when caught in a heated discussion.