Lunch dates are a great time for you to catch up with family, friends, and even business partners and associates at work. The problem with lunch dates, however, is that it usually lasts no longer than an hour. At most, you have an hour and a half for the lunch date. Here’s how you can make the most of your limited time and be a good lunch date.
- Planning ahead. First of all, you need to make sure that you have ironed out the details of your lunch date way ahead of time. The last thing that you want on your lunch date is for you to ask the other person where the two of you will have lunch. Chances are the other person will ask you to choose the restaurant out of courtesy. To avoid this, you should ask for suggestions ahead of time, and if the other person asks you to do the choosing, choose ahead of time. Make reservations if necessary, so that you will have guaranteed seats in the restaurant where you plan on having lunch.
- Paying for the date. Remember that lunch dates are usually a lot less formal and is usually an affair between friends. Because of this, you should make sure that you expect to pay for your own meals, unless otherwise specified by the friend that is taking you out for lunch. Of course, it is also possible that you have a previous agreement with your friend, such as that you will pay for the present lunch date and that the other person will pay for the succeeding lunch date. Just make sure that you know the payment scheme, and that you know that your date should not have to pay for all the lunch dates.
- Communication. One of the best things about lunch dates is that you get to talk and share your feelings with friends. Because of this, you need to make sure that there are clear and open lines of communication with friends during the lunch date. Make sure that you offer some new information about yourself, but at the same time, that you ask how the other person is doing. Remember that a conversation is supposed to be an exchange between two people. There is no need for anyone to monopolize the conversation. If you notice that you have been hogging the conversation, break off and allow the other person to speak. Hopefully, your date will also know better than to talk nonstop about himself. And if he does happen to be the kind of person who talks endlessly about himself, at least you will know better than to invite him to a lunch date next time.
- Keeping track. Remember to note down your scheduled lunch dates with family and friends. Today, a lot of people use lunch dates as a time to get together with friends in spite of the work load and the busy schedule. Because the lunch date is one of your few opportunities to catch up with friends, make sure that you keep track of your lunch dates. As much as possible you should create a routine. For example, First and third Mondays of the month can be lunch dates with person X. Or, every Friday you will have lunch with person B.
With these steps, you should be able to have efficient and very fun lunch dates with your family and friends.