How To Be a More Courteous Lover

Courteousness means respect. This is easy to portray if you are in front of your teacher, your boss or your parents. For lovers, at the beginning, this is no big deal. But as the relationship goes longer and deeper, you become so familiar with each other. This results to impoliteness and even rudeness. To become a more courteous lover, see the following simple steps that must be practiced every day. It must become a sincere habit, not once in a blue moon event. Here, uniformity is the secret.

1. Kiss your partner the first time you see her in the day, and the last time you see her at night. This should be your way of greeting each other daily.
2. Pay attention to what your lover is crying about. Listening is not the same as hearing. Men are guilty of letting words come inside one ear and let it pass outside the other.  You should understand, read between the lines and watch the body signals. When you do this, it means you respect your lover’s thoughts, problems and as a whole, you respect her being.
3. When your lover commits a mistake in front of family or friends, don’t laugh with the others. Instead, try to stop the issue.
4. When in public train and there is a single seat available, have your partner take that seat.
5. Respect your partner’s privacy. Being lovers doesn’t mean your partner needs to report her exact 24 hours to you, minute by minute.
6. When your lover is trying out a dress at a store, and her bulges and all shouting to get out,  tell her in the best euphemism you can think of, like “ um honey, I think the next size will fit you better.”
7. When eating out, ask your lover what she wants. Don’t just order a double serving of what you want.
8. If your lover is reading, studying or deep in thought in front of her laptop—stop blabbing and telling irritating remarks.
9. If you already have kids, don’t tell your kids the negative characteristics of your partner just for fun or just so your kid will love you more. Kids easily absorb all their parents tell them. They might not respect your lover anymore because of your story. 
10. Never kiss and tell, even with your best drinking buddies. Respect your lover. What you both have is intimate and should be shared only by both of you. If you want to go wild and video yourselves, please delete it right after. Better yet, don’t record at all!
11. Do not brawl in front of other people. For me this is the best courteous move you can give to your lover. It would be unfair for both of you to be judged by the people around you because of one silly petty fight.

If you love a person truly, it’s easy to be courteous. Sometimes, you just get comfortable with each other that you forget that your lover is a human being who can still be sensitive.