Going out on a new date and starting a relationship with someone new can be rather risky. Are you in a position to trust a person that you have only known for a short time? Are they trying to scam you out of your money? Are you sure your date is single and not married? If you know how to apply some simple and commonsensical tips before you commit to your new date, then you will know how to stay safe.
Meet at a public place. People generally feel safe when there are others around, and this rule is no exception. When you feel you are ready to go out with your new date, arrange for a meeting at a place where there are lots of others around. Although this may be a hindrance to intimate conversation, it can also prevent an ugly scene when you feel you have had enough and wish to leave. Of course, there would be a lot of time of intimacy later on should all go well, but for the initial dates, it is better to play safe. It’s also a good idea not to disclose where you live on the first date, to avoid potential problems with security.
Try using your own vehicle or mode of transportation. Although you may find the whole concept of picking you up from your own place rather chivalrous, it is safer to use your vehicle or any other public mode of transport on the first date. Walk, take a bus or even use your bicycle to get to the place, especially if it’s someone you’ve just met. Towards the end of the date, if you notice that no sparks are flying you are in no way obliged to accept your date’s offer for transportation.
Watch your alcohol consumption. It’s a fact that alcohol impairs your judgment, and judgment is something that you’ll need lots of when getting to know your new date. However, should you feel compelled to drink on a date, ensure that you are in control of your intake. In other words, keep it to one or two drinks at the most.
Have a backup call you. This is one of the important rules in safe dating. Try and make a friend call you when you are about 15 to 20 minutes into the date, and have her check up on your status. Have a friend also call you about one hour into the date and let your friend know where you are, and if everything is going on well or not. Should you decide to move elsewhere, or stay at your date’s place, let your friend know the location, as well.
Give your mobile number. It is safer to give your new date your cellphone number rather than your home telephone number. This is because it just takes only a few minutes to do a reverse-search on the Internet to get a whole lot of personal information about you, including your home address. And, when you are dating someone new you need to be careful about giving away too much personal information. This is even more important when you have children. If they are pushy about obtaining more details about your life, take this as a warning signal, and slowly shift the conversation to another topic.
When you are planning to go on a new date, your personal safety might be the last thing on your mind. You’re probably worrying about what you are going to wear, or whether this could be the right person for you. Instead, safety should always be the first thing on your mind, especially when going out on a new date with someone you barely know.