How To Break Up with Someone

Breaking up is hard to do. You can’t believe how painful it can be to break up with someone. You get to relive the moments that made it so wonderful and yet you have to fuel your decision with all the things that made it as bad as it was. You get to break the heart of the person that you had feelings for over an extended period of time. It is an emotional roller coaster that will leave anyone as an emotional shell. Now if you think that is hard enough, imagine if you were the one who is being broken up with.

If you are out to break up with someone, let him down softly. It is difficult enough to be broken up with, no need to add insult to injury by dragging your heart through the mud and back. These simple and easy-to-follow tips should help spare you from a lifetime of bad relationship karma. Read through and maybe you can help make an otherwise difficult event a little more bearable.

1. Set the tone. The place and time you break up with someone can help a lot to soften the blow of a failed relationship. It would be best to say your goodbyes in a place that doesn’t have a lot of people. It is important that he or she is in a place that is not going to make him or her feel more vulnerable.  However, don’t do it in a remote place where no one can see you.  You don’t want to be too far away from help if he decides to go psycho on you. Timing is also very important.  Holidays are extremely difficult for people so don’t add a breakup to the hardship. This goes the same with birthdays and anniversaries. You would not want him to associate these very important days with your painful break-up.
2. Treat your partner with respect and honesty. You used to value this person you are about to break up with. Treat your former partner with enough respect to do it right to his or her face. Don’t be overly insensitive and do it over the phone. You wanted to break up so at least have the decency to do it in person. He or she probably has questions. Answer them in a straightforward manner and be honest. Spare him the details if you think it would hurt him even further. Be vague. You can say that you no longer feel the same way when the truth is you don’t find him or her attractive anymore.
3. Check your reaction and respect theirs. Your emotions can run wild during this time. Breaking up with someone is sometimes a very liberating experience so contain the joy you are feeling. It would be very unpleasant for the person you are breaking up with if you seem overjoyed with the break-up. In the same way, his or her reaction to the break up may be a little insane. He or she could cry, throw a tantrum or even go through a total meltdown.  Do not laugh or get mad. People react to rejection in different ways and understand that this is a difficult time. You are leaving him or her, so at least cut her a little slack.

These are just some simple guidelines to breaking up. At the end of it all, you know this person better than any other writer on the Internet. Do what is mutually beneficial for you and your partner. At the start, it will be painful for your partner but rest assured that this decision was for the best. After all, it is better to cut it off than stay in a loveless relationship.