Anger is a normal part of anyone’s life. If you’ve experienced being really angry, you would know that it’s a difficult emotion to control. A lot of people simply lose it when they get angry. They tend to say or do things they regret later. Still, for most people, anger needs to be vented out. Otherwise, anger bottled up will just cause resentment that can last long. For others, anger bottled up can manifest itself through other means, which in some cases become evident as sicknesses or disorders, both psychological and physical.
The important thing is that after you get angry, you should learn to calm down. There are a handful of techniques in calming yourself down after a bout of anger. What’s important is that you keep in control, and not let your anger control you.
- Slow down your breathing. Most people get excited when they get angry. Your heart rate goes up, and so does your breathing. Some people even hyperventilate when they are angry. What’s important for now is to slow down. Breathe slowly and deeply. Inhale through the nose, hold the air in your lungs for a couple of seconds, and exhale slowly through the mouth.
- Stretch a bit, to ease the tension from your body. If you’re sitting down, stand up and take a short walk. This helps clear the air a bit, and will help you think about your situation and why you got angry in the first place.
- Take it out on something, but be constructive. Some people take out their anger by breaking things. Unfortunately, this is not exactly a productive activity. Instead, you can do something productive but still take out your anger on it. For example, going to the driving range and whacking the little balls into the range as far as you can might be therapeutic. You get to hit something with a club, but not break anything important.
- Write down your thoughts. Get a journal or start a private blog where you can write down your thoughts. This helps keep things in perspective. What’s great about writing things about your feelings and emotions is that you can look back into that particular day years from now, and you will probably just laugh about the incident.
- Take time to relax. You can also meditate or pray. Sit down on a comfortable chair, and close your eyes. Imagine yourself in a comfortable place, like a beach or anywhere nice.
- Accept the fact that you cannot control everything in the world. Most of our anger usually stems from frustrations about things that don’t happen as we want them to. Realize the fact that not everything can work to your favor. Once you learn this, you will learn how to work around those things that you cannot change, or achieve your goals through other means.
Anger is but a normal emotion and state of mind. It’s not always negative, as anger can sometimes help people realize that something is wrong. However, what’s wrong with anger is if you let it take over your life and if you become destructive because of it. Take time to calm down and compose yourself, so that you can be constructive in managing your anger.