How To Choose a Minister to Officiate Your Wedding

Your wedding day is definitely special.  Your family, relatives, and friends are all in tow as you exchange vows with your beloved partner.  Because of that, choosing the minister to officiate your wedding becomes very important.  He should be able to lend some sense of formality to the ceremonies without losing the inherent warmth of the occasion. He should also inspire and keep the atmosphere of your wedding in high spirits.    Here are some pointers that may use as guide:

  • Types of ceremonies.  How do you want your wedding rites to go?  If you and your future partner profess the same faith, religious ceremonies may be in order.  The minister has to follow the conventions and the traditions of your religious denomination.  Meanwhile, if you have different religious affiliations, interfaith ceremonies are suitable.  You can agree which specific aspects of your respective religious groups are to be incorporated in the overall rites.  If you are unable to make a decision, you can consult a non-denominational minister.  He is in the best position to choose for you.  Eventually, you may consider getting two ministers to facilitate the proceedings.  And of course, if you are a bit liberal and you are bent on personalizing the elements of your wedding rites, secular ceremonies are perfect.  You can draft your own vows, list your preferred songs, and choose your favorite readings in your actual wedding ceremonies.
  • Venues.  Location is critical, too.  If you are thinking of getting married in a beautiful, old-fashioned church, it is ideal to consider a minister from that particular church’s staff of clergy.  If you are toying the idea of holding it outdoors, perhaps, in a beachfront or in a garden, it is best to invite a clergyman who is willing to officiate your wedding ceremonies outside the church premises.
  • Contact channels.  You can reach the ministers in your area by searching on the net. There are a number of on-line directories.  If you go to, you readily access a comprehensive listing of ministers.  See to it that you limit your listing to the ministers within your community.
    • If you opted for religious or interfaith ceremonies, you can directly get in touch with your local church.  They should be able to recommend a priest, a rabbi, or a clergy person to officiate your wedding.  If you went for something secular, you can visit your county clerk.  He can recommend from a list of duly credentialed and state-accredited and state-licensed Justices of the Peace.  Of course, choosing someone who lives near you becomes customary.
    • You can check out if you to refer to a directory of ordained ministers.  Meanwhile, has an all-inclusive on-line library on state marriage laws.

Once you have chosen a minister, promptly meet him.  You need to talk about the details of your wedding ceremonies.   Find out if he is going to require you to have a pre-marital counseling session before the wedding.  Confirm if he is allowing you to pen your own vows.  When all is set, don’t forget to settle the fees and to sign the corresponding contract. 


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