Finding a wife is a big decision. Far from your ‘girlfriend-du-jour,’ your wife is your soul mate, someone you will spend the rest of your life with. It’s no wonder you’re stuck on this important decision. If you are wondering just how to choose a wife for yourself, you’ll need to dig deep throughout the process. It’s going to take some time, but asking yourself these questions should help you choose a wife.
Does she have a good upbringing? You'll want to find a woman who has good roots. She should be brought up in a loving home, or at least have strong values and a good understanding of family life. She should respect others, and love her parents. And she should have manners, although you can be the judge as to extent of these that are necessary.
Is she successful? You don't want to marry someone who is going to rely on you to do everything for them. A good wife will have achievements and successes that made her successful long before you came around. An education is not crucial, but it definitely adds to the package. When you choose a wife, choose someone who has goals and aspirations in life that go beyond "I want to get married."
Do you share similar interests and beliefs? The woman you marry should have the same values and beliefs as you do. It’s fine to have differing opinions (that’s what makes relationships exciting). But it’s important that you agree on the big things – money, family, children, sex, etc. Have these discussions with the woman you’re considering choosing for a wife before you marry her, to make sure you’ll get along.
Is she attractive to you? This may seem a bit shallow, but we're not just talking about looks here. Does this woman attract you? Are you drawn to her? Is her quirky humor something you love and do her dimples make your heart melt? She doesn't have to be a bombshell, but there's got to be something about a woman - external or internal - that makes you want to choose her as a wife.
Do you have that feeling? More than any quiz, date or trial living arrangement will tell, you can usually tell who to choose as a wife just by the feeling you get when you are around her. If you have spent enough time with the woman to truly know her, and if the thought of spending your life with her not only excites you, but makes you long for the day, then you've probably hit upon that precious feeling that will likely leave you on one knee.
When you choose a good wife, she will change your life forever, usually in a good way. It’s a decision not to be taken lightly, as you’re going to have to live with it the rest of your life. So take the time to do your research, spend time really getting to know this woman and decide whether or not she’s the one you want to spend forever with.