Dating older women was not a welcome idea before. Today, however, it gives younger men more options in dating. There are still snide remarks on the side, but generally it doesn’t come as shocking as it once had. Of course, there are certain things you need to remember to make dating with an older woman successful. Here are some tips you can follow.
- Avoid bringing up age in any of your discussions. Unless she opens it up herself, age shouldn’t be part of your discussions. And she doesn’t expect you to talk about it. Although mature women try not to get affected by it, it certainly turns on the sensitive side of any woman. If you should talk about age, make sure to throw in some humor.
- Be a man not a boy. You may be younger, but that doesn’t mean you have to be treated like a boy. Show her your level of maturity and make it known that although you don’t have as much experiences as she has, you are a sensible and thinking man. Many older women may see younger men as toys, but show her that you are not (unless of course you are also in it for a game). Make wise decisions. Show her that you are capable of standing up for yourself. And be responsible in all aspects.
- Get a job. Money is the first thing that comes to people’s mind when they see you going out with an older woman. So prove them wrong. Look for a job and build a career. She will still take home more money than you do, but at least you are not being a parasite. In the first place, nothing is more embarrassing than allowing her to pay for your meal every time you go out.
- Expect her to take control. Owing to her age and life experiences, an older woman has a natural tendency to be manipulative. This can be a little problematic, especially if you want to be in control of the relationship. If this is the case, discuss your roles at the early stage of the relationship. There’s a chance she will question your capability of running the relationship, but if you have shown him you are smart and not just a boy toy, she will probably consider.
- Let her learn from you. Although she may look like she has learned all the things she needs to learn, there are certain things that she can still pick up from you. Introduce her to your world—your hobbies, interests, arts, and sports. And insightfully discuss things about her world and generation. This is a welcome opportunity for her and a privilege for you to show your sensibility and intellect not only as a man but also as a person.
And finally, never mind the possible scoffs from family and friends. They probably have no idea or refuse to accept the fact that older-women-and-younger-men relationships are already socially accepted. And if you know there is nothing to worry about and be ashamed of, stick with her.