Children are never lazy by nature. If your child is lazy, you can be sure that something is wrong. What could be wrong? Only one thing could be causing your child’s laziness: lack of motivation. Not many parents know this, much less understand this. A lazy child is a demotivated child. A demotivated child is terrified at the thought of failing, so the child resorts to not doing anything in order to avoid failure. As a parent, you should always try to motivate your children, and when you sense their laziness, try to find out the sources of their demotivation. In this article, you will learn some tips on how to deal with a lazy child.
- Find out why. The most common cause of laziness is your child’s lack of self-confidence or a very low self-esteem. Some parents, out of sincere but ignorant concern, suspect more grievous causes such as alcohol abuse or drug abuse. While substance abuse can be considered a cause, it is only a secondary cause. The primary cause is usually more deeply rooted: lack of self-confidence or rock-bottom self-esteem, which can be aggravated by factors such as depression and anxiety.
- Address issues of self-confidence. There are many ways to motivate children. Needless to say, children with high self-esteem are also children who are highly motivated to accomplish something.
- Dangle a carrot. Items such as food and clothing are basic necessities, and you should not deprive your child any of those, not even as a form of punishment. However, television, iPods, gadgets, video games, cell phones, and the like are not needs. Your children can survive without them. But, you can motivate your child by offering these things as privileges that your child has to earn. If your child is already enjoying these privileges, take them away if your child refuses to meet his obligations and responsibilities. Then, offer the child a chance to earn back those privileges.
- Compliment and praise your child. Getting a compliment or being praised for performing his responsibilities can also be a source of motivation for your child and can boost the child’s self-esteem.
- Teach your child that failure is a reality. You can do this by opening up to your child about your own experiences with failure. If you share your failures and disappointments with your child, he or she will not only sympathize with you but also learn that even you—a parent, whom he looks up to—can also fail and is not a god. It is okay to fail. It is okay to fail many times. But, it is not okay to fail all the time by not doing anything at all.
- Set aside enough family time. If you are a hardworking parent and your work takes much of your time away from your children, you should know that your children would feel left out. One way that they discover for themselves to capture your precious attention is to be lazy. It’s your attention that they need. Give it, and they most likely will give up the laziness, as well.
Laziness in children is not an inborn trait. It is a reaction to various stimuli and factors in their environment. Now that you have a better understanding of why children become lazy, you can try working out the suggestions described in this article to deal with your lazy child.