Your child is a bundle of joy. You love to see and hear him chuckle. You cherish the time when you play with him and he seems to acknowledge that he is having fun with you. You feel great to find him sleeping soundly. But sometimes, your temperamental child also tests your love and patience. Remember those days when he suddenly belts the loudest shriek humanly possible simply because you failed to hand over his favorite toy or he didn’t like what you fed him? Indeed, temper tantrums from a temperamental child are frustrating. Even for bystanders, seeing your child turns into fit is excruciating. So, here are some steps to let you easily understand and manage your child’s volatile temperament:
- Realize that your child is still a toddler. Because of that, he is unable to communicate what he needs or wants. When he is feeling helpless or when he is misunderstood, his only resort is to cry out loud. Learn to recognize and acknowledge your child’s frustrations. When he is temperamental, try saying something like this: “I know that you are frustrated. I want you to calm down. I will help you with what you need.” Letting him hear that you understand him and that you are willing to listen and help him would matter a lot. You child, even though he is still young, would feel that you are being fair with him and that you care much about his needs or wants.
- Train you child to communicate with you using words. By encouraging him to say “yes” or “no” when you ask him about something, you are letting him to tell you what is on his mind. He gets to focus when he is communicating with you. You also address his feeling of being frustrated, overwhelmed, and helpless. Child-rearing experts observe that tantrums are common among two-year old kids. Although two-year old kids have gained some language skills, you would still find it difficult to determine what they need or want 100% of the time.
- Spend some quality time with your child. Being with your child means giving him the proper attention. You get to indirectly tell him that he could count on you on those regular routines. Begin by identifying Mommy-and-Me activities like coloring a book or watching cartoons on TV. You could also have story time and naptime rituals with your child. Those activities would let you know your child better and when his tantrums come, you would be in the best position to handle them well.
Following the steps above could help you manage your child’s outbursts. However, don’t forget to permit him to have control over small things. Let him decide what type of drink he would like after his meal. Water, juice, iced tea? If you are to read a book, which story would he prefer? This develops his sense of independence. You may also compliment him for his choice. Such little acknowledgments would help positively shape your child’s personality and you may not need to worry more about him in the future.