How To Determine if Your Long Distance Relationship is Working

It's nearly impossible to comprehend and understand the turmoil and anxiety that can run through the head of someone who's currently frustrated with the underlying and irrevocable situation that revolves around a long distant relationship. Add to this the confused friends with close boyfriends or girlfriends who want to give their opinions. They may tell you you're crazy for even trying to date long distance or that the person is not worth it and you might begin to wonder if they're right or if there is some way to tell on your own if it's really meant to be. Well, there isn't any magic formula or personal checklist to follow, but there are a few things to watch out for.

First, you should ask yourself some questions and be entirely honest. Does this person call you on a regular basis? Do you have to always call first? If you have the ability to see each other do you share this responsibility or are you the only one traveling? These are the basic questions. Since their voice may be the only spark of connection you receive that day and because seeing each other, if at all, may be few and far between, these are important questions to ask. If that person does not call on their own, if you are doing the extent of the traveling, and they don't attempt to regularly reach out to you through any form of communication on their own, this may be the first red flag and the final one for most.

If this isn't a problem, then it may be the depth of the connection. It is possible to fix things the majority of the time if you realize the lack of emotion first. Many couples stop showing their affection the way they used to and when you factor distance into this equation you get a sinking relationship. Yet, fixing things really is simple. Talk about your individual schedules and find a specific time you can talk together on a daily basis. Plan days you are able to meet and actually schedule a date for that day. Use Web sites to see each other via video before you go to bed. Then, if all else fails, if that person decides not to try any suggestion given or if they try to tell you that they're just to busy for that phone call, text or date, then tell them goodbye. They're too busy for a long distance relationship.