Being a parent brings a lot of challenges. One of them is disciplining your child. How can you impose your authority over him with making him feeling bad about it? Here are some suggestions on how you can make your parenting skills more discipline-friendly for your child:
- Understand your child’s innate behavior. As a parent, you may have already assumed that it is your right to discipline your child and your child should follow all your wishes. So, you just give out your orders to your child without really considering how he feels about them. If that is the case, expect complications.
A child behaves according to his age. As he grows older, he develops his own sensibilities. He changes his behaviors according to his encounters and experiences. He begins to decide on things that he wants to do and pursue. He makes those decisions without really thinking about consulting you. So, before you give your strong orders, speak with your child. Find out and listen why he does things. By understanding his situation, you get to adjust your demands. You can arrive at a compromise and both of you are happy since you fairly understand each other’s concerns and issues.
- Show your persistence. You can’t be wishy-washy in telling your child about the consequences if he doesn’t obey your instructions. If your child agreed to be home on time and he comes really late one night, ground him. If you don’t show that you are serious about your rules, he may simply ignore your agreements next time. Before you ground him, see to it that he understands the reason for that. Being persistent is critical in imposing discipline. So, stick to your words.
- Give your assurance. Be honest with your child. He has to know and understand why you need to discipline him even at a young age. He has to see your point. He has to hear that when you punish him for his misdemeanor, you are doing it because his behavior needs to be corrected. You are punishing him because you love him so dearly and you just want him to learn a lesson in life. You have to express your assurance that you are going to love and respect him despite his misbehavior.
- Avoid foul language. Harassing your child with foul language isn’t necessary. It can only worsen your predicament with your child. Show that you respect your child by explaining your point clearly, politely, and patiently.
- Don’t physically hurt your child. Violence begets violence. Like foul language, raising your hand isn’t going to solve the problem that you have with your child. So, when you know that you are about to lose your temper, compose yourself. Calm down. You have to understand that growing up can be a confusing phase for your child.
Parenting can be a puzzling responsibility. Learn to focus. Your goal is to discipline your child the right way. Give him the freedom to discover his own path as you try to guide him. He also needs to feel your support and love.