"What is true love?" The answers I have heard have shocked me. Some more than others; one such was actually "great sex." I'd like to hear the rationalization of that one. "If I don't have an orgasm, he doesn't love me," is an unreasonable way to define love, but many people do believe this. What is the difference between love and sex, and how can it be distinguished?
I once had a man tell me that there was no such thing as true love, then I proved him wrong. It took me a long time, but he did ask me not to give up!
One way to show someone that your love goes beyond sexual interaction is by denying your partner the "right" to speak death into his life. Embrace a positive way of thinking and share this with your partner so that he can learn to speak into the future beautiful things that will come back to him in a life-affirming way with time. After all, it is with the spoken word that we have much of our power as people. We can create who we are with our words. This will show your partner that your interest is in him and not just in his body.
You must also show loyalty and trustworthiness from the beginning. If your partner chooses to share his secrets with you, don't spread them around town. Don't spend your free time stepping out on your partner. These actions will help build a foundation of trust and affection that will convince your partner of your love.
Another way to show your partner the difference between love and sex, is to deny him the work of carrying a load. Yes, the men in our lives should probably take on more housework, but this doesn't mean that we have to nag them every minute of the day to get things done. By making sure that your end of the household chores are done regularly, you show him that you respect the space that you share together enough to keep him from having to live in a mess or take on extra cleaning duties. This, along with some gentle encouragement from you, will inspire him to do the same. This goes beyond buying things for her. It goes beyond hugs, kisses and words. It becomes the act of love.
It's perfectly okay to express love with sex or with physical intimacy, but if you have deeper feelings for your partner you shouldn't let sex become the entire reason for the relationship. In this fashion does your love become more than mere words or the exclusive sexual act. Here, love becomes an all-encompassing act that says, "yes, true love does exist. It is here, now, in your very home . . . where, once, you were betrayed."
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