Many times, we wonder why our friends act the way they do. Over time, our relationships with friends can dwindle merely because we become too self-centered and pay less attention to them. Relationships need constant attention to stay in good shape. Here are a few ways to recharge your relationships with those around you:
- Practice forgiving. The best medicine ever for curing relationship problems is learning to forgive. If it is hard to forgive a person, remember that he is as vulnerable and insecure as you or any other person in the drama of life. If you forgive, it will do even more good for you than for the person you forgive. By relieving an unnecessary grudge, you release tension and free yourself up. (You'll also be able to sleep peacefully!)
- Make the other person feel important. People crave attention and unknowingly love it when others support their own opinions. The greatest way to reinforce relationships is by supporting the other person's long-held beliefs and opinions. Talk on the positive side of his or her profession or way of living, and be conscious enough not to let loose words that might jeopardize the firm beliefs of that person. Don't force your thoughts or opinions upon them.
- Use the mirror effect. The other person unconsciously reflects and does whatever you do. Automatically, he will do things the same way that you do. Be proactive and do things that you want your friend to do for you - like spoil him by taking him out for dinner at an Italian restaurant, give him a surprise by taking him for a movie of his favorite actor and other activities that show you are thinking of him. Chances are that he will mirror your actions and do the same for you.
- Think from the other person's point of view. In this way, you will come to realize the difficulties and challenges of others. It will be a real revelation and you will begin to know their thought and behavior patterns and understand why they act the way they do. You will eventually realize that they are like you in many ways, and that you yourself have committed the same mistakes that you notice and complain about in them.
- Stop negative programming. If your friend or colleague or your boss gives too much importance to some other person and not you, then don't develop prejudice over that particular person. You should realize that you can't be the center of attention all the time. Here, positive mind programming can come in handy--where you assure yourself that this particular incident is too trivial to pay attention.
Make the other person feel at ease. You may be a terrific person, but when it comes to your friends, portray yourself as a down-to-earth friend above all else. Exude the image that you, too, have your own problems, hardships and failures in life. You should be seen by others as easily approachable and very much like them in all ways. Don’t put in a lot of effort to show that you are a standout from the crowd.
- Always keep in touch. This is what most of us unconsciously tend to do - fail to keep in touch. If you are completely focused on your career, you easily lose contact with even your close friends. You will never realize this and, after a few years, you spontaneously and completely forget these friends. You must take the initiative to contact your friends and keep your relationships going.
Many surveys repeat the fact that a big social circle empowers men and women to improve their odds of luck and happiness in a big way. By following the above-mentioned tips consistently, you can turn even your acquaintances into close friends.