It's sad to say that even in today's society it can be hard to find places you fit into if you are gay. Everyone likes to feel like they fit in. We all want to be around people who won't judge us or talk behind our backs. We all like to hang around groups of people who will accept us and won't turn against us. So what do you do if you are gay and you move to a new town by yourself? How do you find people you can hang out with who will accept you with open arms? Or perhaps you don't care what other people think, but you want to hang around a crowd that interests you. It's actually not as hard as one would think, depending on the city or town you live in.
You could start by swinging past the local bookstore and picking up a local gay and lesbian newspaper. A lot of cities have one. In these you can find directories with detailed information about gay bars, clubs, restaurants, and personal ads. You can even find a list of activities that are for gays and lesbians only. For example, you can find local bowling leagues, swimming teams, and football teams that are only open to members who are gay. This would be a great way to meet people and have fun.
If you can't find a local newspaper where you live, don't get discouraged. There is always the internet. You can easily go online and type in your city and state and search for gay hangouts. If the city in which you live doesn't offer any activities for gays, you can always check surrounding cities. A great website I found is nationalgaynews.com. This website lists states and cities and tells you all the great gay hangouts in each city. Not only does it list nightclubs and bars, but it even list gay and lesbian churches and businesses. Using the website as a tool can definitely get you on the fast track to meeting local gays and lesbians.
If all else fails you can always check your local white pages or your gay and lesbian chamber of commerce. There are a million resources out there that are available at your fingertips. You could even try joining gay chat rooms and maybe you will come across some local gays you could meet up with. The possibilities are endless. If you take my advice and check out these resources, I'm sure you will be meeting up with local gays in no time.