When you reach a certain age, a certain point in your life that you ponder and you suddenly have this feeling that you are not getting any younger, but you are still single, or are in a relationship that seems to go nowhere - you start to wonder: how do I find a mature person to have a dating relationship worth pursuing?
A lot of single men and women over the age of 30 have this feeling, especially those who have been in and out of relationships, and probably marriages, and end up being frustrated, hurt and feeling hopeless. So how does one find a mature dating relationship?
- Find out what you really want. Sometimes, the issue is not your previous partner, but you. It is best to settle issues on your own first before dragging somebody else in your life. The love bug works for a while, but if your relationship is only based on the premise that the person will probably make things better for you, then that will be a problem in the future, when your partner starts having issues also. Deal with your past hurts, mistakes and regrets, and start with a clean slate.
- Associate with people that you like to be with, those who have the same core values. It is important to expose yourself to people with the same interests, values and morals. Although some people might tell you that it is an adventure to be with someone completely your opposite, you still have to make a choice. A person may have a different way of dressing up and have a different style, but you should look at the core: his values, morals, the way they treat their parents and family, the way they react to problems and the way they react to your uniqueness. At the end of the day, what connect you together or break you apart are your core values.
- You can explore online dating websites, but proceed with caution. Make sure you get to know the person really well before meeting him in person, and when you do, make sure both your families know about it. It is scary to be swindled or taken advantage of, whether financially or physically. Men are wary of dating women who may seem dependent because of the possibility of getting scammed. Women on the other hand, are prone to physical abuse. Again, proceed with utmost caution.
- Join events and organizations that you enjoy. You may meet interesting single men and women in these events, and the great thing about it is that in case you do not meet someone worth dating, you get to increase your network of friends and acquaintances that may lead you to another person worth pursuing.
Be very open-minded. This is one of the many things you will be able to use as a tool in getting to know a person, and it will also attract the right person to you. Take note that they, too, are observing you, making mental notes whether or not you are worth having a relationship with.