How To Flirt

Flirting is more than a skill, it’s an art. There will always be some women who are natural flirts. If this is not you, don’t worry. You can learn to flirt. These steps will get you started on the right footing, but as we all know, flirting is an art... if you want an in-depth guide that's sure to give you the upper-hand, check out Mimi Tanner's Secret's of Flirting with Men.

1. Smile. Before you press with your flirting, be sure you’ve caught his eye. Smile to let him know you are interested and available. Make it a natural smile that goes all the way to your eyes.
2. Focus on the object of your desire. Flirting works best when you have a target. Focus on him so that he knows you are looking his way. Don’t stare. Cast him a few glances to get his attention. Then once you’ve met, pay attention when he talks. Glance at his lips and lean toward him while listening.
3. Look into his eyes. Making eye contact is essential to flirting. You may want to slowly look down and away on occasion but the majority of the flirting will require you be able to meet his gaze.
4. Touch him on the arm, shoulder, hand or back. Make contact without making a move on him. Don’t grope, grab or thrust yourself upon him. Flirty is a subtle act so you should lightly run your hand along his arm or shoulder. Or consider toughing his hand while you are talking. This reminds him that he is your focus and lets him know you are interested in touching.
5. Lick your lips. This is another step that requires subtlety or it will look forced or even creepy. Once in a while it is okay to slowly lick your lips to moisten them. Pay attention to his eyes when you do this. If they immediately look down to watch and focus on your lips, he is flirting back and definitely interested.
6. Have fun. You cannot take flirting seriously if you want to be any good at it. Don’t try to check off this list like a plan the next time you try to flirt. Instead, be yourself and relax. Then have some fun with it. These steps are about sending signals that you are interested in flirting and getting to know him better. Remember to enjoy yourself.

Flirting is a fun form of communication between two people who may be considering a romantic interest. Flirting does not have to lead to anything more. Some people just like to flirt and have fun with people. Feel free to practice your flirting anytime you are out and interested. The more you practice, the more natural flirting will become.