How To Forget a Guy

Forgetting a guy you were, or perhaps still are, in love with can be quite challenging. You need to find ways to let go of memories that cause you pain and move on. Unsure of where to begin? Here are some ways for you to move on and, once again, be happy.

  • Forget the face you cared for.  If looking at his photographs or your picture together in your mobile phone or computer brings back the pain, then it's time to keep those away from your sight. Keep them locked up or hidden somewhere, delete or throw them away.
  • Forget the memories you have shared together. Doing nothing and spending whole days and nights daydreaming of your past will only worsen the  heartache and it will not bring him back. Learn to cherish the memories you've shared, but accept the fact that right now, those are already part of the past and you have a present and future for which to plan.
  • Forget his actions, his teasing way. When you're in love, you do exceptional things, you go beyond the borderline of sanity; you'll be the mushiest person alive and you don't care. But when the relationship is over and he's gone, going through all of those sweetest actions he did, over and over, won't be of any help.
  • Forget the things he used to say. There are words said that were truly meant and the situation called for it, and there were things said but were never meant. Now that he fades away, whatever was said no longer matters.
  • Forget the thrill when he passes by. Young love is the sweetest love, so innocent; the mere sight of the beloved is enough for a young heart to leap and beat faster. It is a stage that everyone goes through; it's like a street that you pass by to reach a certain destination. Lucky for those who were able to keep their route, but for others with relationships that failed, be thankful that you passed that way and move on.
  • Forget the times he made you cry. If you continue to feel and experience the pain of the times he hurt you or broke your heart, or the instances when you shed your tears, then you will be buried in that deep hole of regret, of self-pity, or absence of self-worth. He said and did awful things to you, it may have a reason or not, it may be intentional or not, but then it's already said and done; it's over. Move on. Forgive and forget.
  • Forget the way he spoke your name. You may have the most common, generic, ordinary name in the world, or it may sound silly or nasty, but it would sound so special when spoken by a loved one; it seemed like a music playing, a love song played over and over again in your ear. Just like any song, it will have its end. When the music stops, you can play it over through your head, but it remains ended. Don't force it to continue.
  • Forget the song he used to sing. Perhaps the two of you found a perfect song with appropriate lyrics and melody. You would think that it was just made for you; a perfect background playing while you are with your loved one. If you keep rewinding those songs, then loneliness will not leave you.  
  • Forget how close you were before. You used to do all things together, went to all places together, and it seemed that each of you was a shadow of the other. Now it's over; he has already said goodbye, he wants you both to go your separate ways. You honestly think and believe that he meant it. Then start doing things on your own again. You don't need anyone to help you with anything; only an invalid person needs extra help at all times. 
  • Forget the promise he will never leave you. A promise has always been something that gives hope, something that makes us advance, and something that we can look forward to. It gives us security; it assures us and calms our troubled mind. But then promises are also made to be broken, and indeed it has been repeatedly broken, time and again. You can't hold on to promises because everything is subject to change. He left you, he's nowhere near you, he's not coming back, and he's gone forever. Accept that reality.
  • Forget the love that you once knew. When he left you, it meant that your chapter with him is done. The love you shared is over, but don't turn your back against love forever. Do not deprive yourself of the chance to love and be loved again. Accept that you've tried your best to make things work out. The break up may or may not have been your fault; maybe you could have done better, or done things differently,but don't be too harsh on yourself. Brush yourself off, stand up, wear a smile and remember, someday you will find someone new.


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