Forgetting Someone in 8 Steps: Mending a Broken Heart

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Romantic relationships can be really complicated and may even end with a bad breakup. The worst thing about these "sad endings" is that at least one heart ends up broken. Getting over a break up can be tough. Sometimes, it's even hard for both sides--after all, breaking up is not easy to do. It hurts to throw away your story with someone--all the good memories and the dreams and plans you two had for the future. Mending a broken heart takes time and patience. But you must face the fact that your heart is broken. It doesn't matter if you wish things could be different or if you even regret something you did. It doesn't matter if you think you shouldn't have become that involved with that person or if you're angry and looking for revenge. The fact is: Your heart is broken!  This relationship advice can help.

Even if the only thing you want to do is win your partner back - and by the way, if you're interested in doing this then I strongly recommend The Magic of Making Up - when a relationship is truly over, it's time to begin the healing process. 

So now what? Are you going to sit and cry for the rest of your life or do you intend to do something? Was that ending your fault or are you not the one to blame? Is there something you can do to fix it? Is there something you should stop and think about so you can act in a better way the next time 'round? Is mending a broken heart even possible? Of course it is!  Getting over a break up is possible. There are many things you can do to heal a broken heart! And the best thing is: It all depends on you! Here's how to forget someone in 8 steps.

Step 1

Cry out everything you have to cry about! When we get hurt, it's normal (and good) to cry. Don't ever think you're being weak for crying and don't feel embarrassed because of it! It's normal and it's good! When you cry, you let go of part of your anger and hurt so you can feel less heavy. You can lock yourself in a room, if you want to, and put on some sad music...but let yourself feel the pain and cry so you can let it go. The main thing here is: Get rid of the pain! Just let her go!

Step 2

Get busy! When you're trying to get someone out of your head, you need to put other things inside of it. In other words...get busy! It doesn't matter how, you just need to get distracted. Go to a movie, watch a play, travel. It doesn't matter what are you going to do--the important thing is to find something to do. Find a hobby, find something you enjoy doing, something to keep your mind busy. If your mind is busy, it doesn't have time or space to think about the person you're trying to forget.

Step 3

Spend some time with your friends. Friends areYoung woman in deep thought always great to have in this kind of situation! Friends can make you feel good about yourself and get you distracted very easily. They will certainly make you laugh and make you see that you're way more important than you think! The only warning is: Ask them not to talk about the person you're trying to forget. If they start bringing the topic up in every conversation, you won't be able to forget, and instead of making you laugh, they're going to make you cry. So be honest and ask them not to talk about it!

Step 4

Avoid the person! Try not to go to places you know you can meet that person. When you're trying to forget someone and you two keep seeing each other, it can be even harder to get over it. If you meet him/her somewhere, be polite, but find an excuse to go away as fast as you can! If you work or study with him/her and you can't avoid seeing him/her, just try not to look and not to talk too much. Just be gentle and keep busy all the time so you won't have excuses to look at him/her or to chat.

Step 5

Go out and see some different faces! Being at home gives you more time to think about the relationship, which makes the process of working through the end of that relationship even more difficult. So even if you're not feeling excited or you're in a bad mood, just put on your best clothes, best shoes, best smile, call some friends and go somewhere nice where you can dance, drink, listen to some music. And the most important: See some different faces! When you go out, you notice that the person you're trying to forget is not the only one who's got a perfect smile and an amazing voice...thank god, there are other interesting people in the world!

Step 6

Avoid every kind of romantic thing! If you're trying to forget someone, you'd better not watch romantic movies or listen to romantic makes you feel bad and you will certainly remember the person you're trying to forget. It doesn't matter if it's a song you love or if it's playing on the radio...just change the station or do something else. Put on some happy songs, dancing songs, watch some comedies, terror movies, just need to avoid the romantic things for now!

Step 7

Take good care of yourself. Women tend to run for some kind of self-destruction when they're hurt. If we break up our perfect relationship, then we have no reason to get our nails done anymore and the only thing that gives us comfort is chocolate and sugar. That way, the only thing we do is to become less attractive and lessen our self-confidence. So if you're hurt, just try to use your pain for yourself instead of against you. Go to the gym, work out a lot, get your nails and hair whatever you can so you can feel more pretty and confident!

Step 8

Accept the process! You can be really strong and it's still going to hurt. The process takes time and you have to accept that. You can't hope to forget in 2 days someone you loved for 2 years...and you can't pretend to be strong if you feel like crying. Just face your pain and accept that it's not easy and it's going to take some time. When you're patient with yourself and your situation, things tend to get easier...

Of course, forgetting someone is not easy to do nor is it easily explained in just 8 steps. But there are some things that make the process a lot smoother. As I said, it takes time and it's hard but I'm sure you can do it. The only thing that is really, really important is: It all depends on you! Don't ever forget that. If you want to forget someone, then you will, there is no doubt! Even if it takes a long time, even if you have to be really will be! In that kind of situation we usually find out that we are a lot stronger than we give ourselves credit for. So believe that -- believe that, take a deep breath and move on! Your life's waiting for you, baby!


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Hey, guys! I'm really sorry I've been gone for a long time... Things are kinda hard here and I'm not having a lot of time. But I looooove to know that I helped somehow! :) Look... Although it's possible, it's NOT easy! We have to be strong. And don't think that I say that in theory because I'm living that right now... I had a relationship with a person for some short months last year. And, UNTIL NOW, I can't seem to forget about her. Everytime I listen to a song or I hear that name, I get completely messed up... There are some people that are harder to forget than others. Maybe because with them we had a better relationship, maybe because we have such good memories, maybe because we REALLY wanted it to work out and we keep holding on to that... But it's NOT, it's NEVER impossible. We just have to keep doing everything, ok? No matter how much time passes, we have to keep strong if we really want to forget them. Just let go of your regrets, you know? Let's stop thinking like "oh, but it was so perfect, I wish it worked out", THAT won't help anything! Ok, it was a nice relationship, ok, it was a nice person... Ok, you wish it worked out... But it DIDN'T! IT IS OVER. There's nothing you can't do that will change that so let's move on... Life won't last forever and it's too short for us to waste time thinking about people we're not with. And also, pay attention to something... I suggest we all make ourselves a question before anything: "Do I REALLY want to forget that person?" Because, c'mon, if there are other people or circumstance trying to split you guys up but you both love each other then, dude, DON'T GIVE UP! Not every relationship is easy, sometimes we have to fight the whole world to be with somebody... But, if that person's worth the trouble, if you love her enough, if she loves you back, then do that! Fight for it! We just have to forget somebody when the feeling we have is starting to let us down. If it's not good for us, not good for our lives, if it's bringing us down, if it's over... Then it's better for us to forget indeed. But if that person still loves you and you still love her... Then go there!

Well, anyway, I have said too much already :D I want to answer everybody later, but now I don't have the time so I made a general comment about some things I though it would be important to say. Sorry about the mistakes, I'm kinda running out of time here, ahaha. And thank you guys so much for the comments and stuff! Hope you're doing fine! Don't give up, ok?



hey guys! sukhdeep - I think, in my opinion, you should fight for that person! if you love him and he loves you too... you guys could work out together, you could be happy! don't let other things get in the way... I know it's complicated, but keep strong! if you really love him, keep strong! don't give up on your feeling :) you guys can be HAPPY, truly happy! It's only worthy to forget someone when you know this feeling won't make you happy, when you know you and that person are not going to be together and this is going to bring more pain to your life... I don't think that's your case! think about it :) it's an important decision to make...


Oh, sweetie, I know, I've been there :\ It's really hard indeed! But it gets easier, ok, never forget that :) The beginning is the hardest part so keep strong, time will make you feel better :) By the way, if somebody wants to add me on messenger, feel free! I'm brazilian so my english is quite bad, hahaha. But I'm working on it :D


Ohn, I'm so happy I helped somehow :) You know, something really good is to cry! cry and cry and cry! Everything you have to cry! So you don't feel heavy, you know? But, after that, just wipe your tears cause to laugh is even better than to cry! I've recently gone through something like that too... And the person was very important and someone I loved a lot so it was hard. But now I'm glad to say I'm free :) And you will be too!


Hey Mary! You're so right! We have to keep that in mind cause it's easier to think that way now but when our heart gets broken we tend to be a little less positive... :\ But let's keep that in mind and NOT forget ourselves! Thanks for the comment, honey! :)


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