How To Get a Partner to Use a Condom

Sex is a touchy subject. No pun intended. In both new and old relationships, any topic that has to do with what goes on between the sheets needs to be handled with a great deal of care. That's why if you're trying to get your partner to wear a condom the key is to be subtle.

First of all, try and set up some ground rules before the hot and heavy stuff starts. You can't wait until your partner is ready to go to tell him he has to wear a condom. Let him know straight out your concerns about STD's and of course, pregnancy. If you're in a same sex relationship, the pregnancy issue has no bearing of course, but the STD one still does. Also let him know the benefits of condoms. For one, if he wears a condom, there is no need to pull out.

With the condom ground rules set, the next best thing is to go condom shopping. By making it a joint effort, it allows the guy to pick out his favorite choice in condoms. Maybe he's interested in some condoms that enhance the experience or perhaps he wants some condoms that stifle his "eagerness" so he'll last longer. The fact of the matter is though if you give him a voice in condom selection he'll be more prone to wear one. Not to mention, discussing condoms and the act of sex in a crowded store with his significant other works wonders for some men.

Now it's a matter of making sure the condoms are readily available. Most men will use the excuse that the condoms are too far away and he'll lose his erection if he has to stop. That's why a nice stash of condoms in your bedside drawer will guarantee that that excuse won't pop up. If you are a more adventurous couple, have some hidden condoms throughout the house. Just make sure you remember where you put the condoms in case your niece or nephew stop by.

Don't forget to be consistent. Don't let the guy get away without wearing a condom one time and then expect him to use a condom the next. If you let him set a precedent, you'll always end up hearing, "Well you let me do it that one time without a condom." Be strong and if it helps, place a picture of your mom or dad on your bedside table and look over at it before you make any decision. For one, it'll slow you down and second it'll let you hear that little voice in your head that says, "Make your partner a condom."