For childless couples, finding a surrogate mother can be an option. Surrogacy happens when a mother carries a child that was conceived outside the womb. As this is the case, a woman can be a traditional surrogate mother when the baby she carries in her womb is her biological child. On the other hand, a woman can be a gestational carrier when the child she carries is not her biological child. A gestational carrier can be a commercial surrogate mother when she is paid to carry the child in her womb or be an altruistic surrogate mother when she will not receive any financial reward after the child is born.
While surrogate mothers can be relatives or friends of the couple, most surrogacy cases are processed through an agency. These agencies take charge of matching the intended parents with women who apply to be surrogate mothers. In the United States, for example, a surrogate mother may receive amounts ranging between $25,000 and $50,000.
Here are the things you should do if you want to get approved as a surrogate mother:
1. Know the laws on surrogacy in your state. States have different laws on surrogacy and these may hinder you from applying to become a surrogate mother. In the United State, the states that do not approve of surrogacy are Alaska, Alabama, Arizona, District of Columbia, Delaware, Hawaii, Iowa, Idaho, Indiana, Louisiana, Michigan, Missouri, Mississippi, Montana, North Dakota, New Hampshire, New Jersey, New Mexico, New York, Rhode Island, South Carolina, South Dakota, Washington, and Wyoming.
2. Find an agency where you can apply as a surrogate mother. There are websites of agencies that you can visit online. Read their requirements and make sure that you meet them before submitting your application. One such agency is the Center for Surrogate Parenting, Inc.creatingfamilies.com. The following are the qualifications that they are looking for in surrogate mother applicants:
- A permanent resident of the United States of America and currently living in the country
- Should not smoke
- Should be between 21 to 42 years of age
- Should not be under any government assistance package
- Should already have a child that is being raised
3. Furnish an impressive profile if you will be advertising independently. You can always opt to apply being a surrogate mother even without the help of agencies although this will mean more legwork on you your part. One of the things that you should be preparing first is your profile. It would be just like furnishing a resumé that you would normally submit in applying for a job. This time, however, you will be presenting yourself to the intended couple. Basically, your profile should contain the following information:
- How many deliveries you have had and if there had been pregnancy issues with your past deliveries
- Your medical and family history
- Your ethnicity and the region you are in
- Your personal views on surrogacy
- Your compensation scale
There may be opposing views about the issue of surrogacy among people. Still, the fact remains that for childless couples, finding a surrogate mother is their only option.