How To Get Someone to Like You

Mutual Interests
Most interpersonal communication begins with a gesture, usually a smile.  Once this threshold has been crossed, verbal communication is the next step to introducing oneself. It's not easy to know at the outset if an acquaintance likes you or not. That determination is a result of exchanges of communication that offer information about who you are are and what your mutual interests are.  

Avoid introducing yourself from an impersonal point of view such as including your job title after your name. This helps deter "status balancing" between two people that defines people by what they do, rather than who they are. The interaction between two people who introduce themselves by job title tends to set up a platform of status where one individual or the other must then offer a balance between status and who the other person really is.

What Makes People Like You?

To begin with, most people have very specific preferences and tastes where their friends and acquaintances are concerned. Therefore, there is already a defined code of values in place even before two people meet.  Hopefully, mutual interests can bridge any differences. Individuals find they are attracted to happy people.  Morose, dour expressions do not encourage likability.  But, it's important to note that internal happiness must be secure enough to support external expressions of happiness. Nothing is more magnetic than a smile. Exuberance that marries with a happy countenance is another magnet for individuals who are not in a "happy place" at that moment in time.

Developing Likability
In order to know how to get someone to like you, learn how to like yourself.  It's next to impossible to market a personality that is self-absorbed, self-important or self-centered.  There are several steps to learning how to get someone to like you:

  1. Before striking up a conversation with a new acquaintance, ask him how he feels.
  2. Be a good listener.
  3. Keep conversations focused on the other person, rather than on yourself.

How to Get Someone to Like You
Learning how to get someone to like you should be more about knowing why a person doesn't (or may not) like you.  Try to use the following steps to discover the reason why someone may not like you:

  1. Take a personal inventory of how you think, look, speak and act.
  2. Note individual reactions to your communication.
  3. Develop self-confidence as a mechanism in order to get someone to like you.

Most people appreciate those who listen intently and show interest.


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