How confident are YOU with your oral loving skills? Would you say, without hesitation, that you are a rockin' sex kitten and you make your man's eyes roll into the back of his head every time?
What do you think HE'D say?
Not so sure? Yeah, I get it. Read on...
There are plenty of ladies out there that are just kind of flying blindly when it comes to giving oral sex and plenty of guys who don’t tell them because they’re just so happy to be getting any at all!
Why not be SURE that you're pleasing your man? You can definitely learn EVERYTHING (and I DO mean everything!) you need to know about giving mind- and body-blowing oral sex with the very hot guide Blow by Blow - trust me, once you read this book you won't want to wait to try out what you've learned!
As a sex columnist, the NUMBER ONE question I get from women is how to perform oral sex that will knock a man's socks off... And the number one COMPLAINT I get from men is that their women don't know what they're doing "downtown." Well, I'm going to share some simple tips you need to know that will keep your man worshipping the sex goddess that you are!
ENJOY WHAT YOU'RE DOING. This is the biggest one, ladies. Men say it's hard to enjoy themselves when their lady seems bored, in a hurry or unsure how to give a blowjob. Can you blame him? This is his most sensitive part of his body that he's entrusting... TO YOUR MOUTH! This is your chance to give pleasure to your man.
Think of this as one of the most passionate gifts you can give to him. So be enthusiastic about it! It’s time you let that inner sex kitten out and play. Be powerful, strong and sexy. Look at him while you’re pleasuring him, enjoy the fact that right at this moment, he’d hand over the keys to the castle. This is a powerful act for a woman and the time when a man is at his most vulnerable. Take your time, tease that naughty boy. Savor it.
THE WETTER, THE BETTER. Guys agree. The more saliva you use, the more enjoyable. Try and keep him very moist from the tip on down. This is not a time to act like Bree on “Desperate Housewives” and be anally neat. Get messy. Keep a glass of water on the nightstand. Use lubricant if you need to (although that that can taste like nasty old tires!) or experiment with some fun foods, like whipped cream or a lukewarm tea. Remember, you are simulating a very warm moist place…
LEND A HELPING HAND. Or two. Don’t be afraid to use your hands. In fact, your hand should be a nice continuation of your mouth. Even feel free to add a gentle twist of the wrist to add to the pleasure. Think about all that pleasure that can come from a VARIETY of sensations. You need to combine your mouth, lips, tongue and hands. That beautiful combination of flickering tongue, moist lips, suctions, licking, wet hands, twists and more can send your man over the edge...
BE BALLSY. The testicles are your friends, ladies. Treat them as such. Greet them warmly. One of the top complaints I hear from men is that their female counterparts would forget that they are a package deal. Three’s Company. Caress them with your spare hand tenderly, tickle and tease.
REMEMBER WHAT YOU'RE HANDLING. There’s fine line between being firm and strangulation. Be mindful of the amount of pressure you’re using. Try and think what you would like, were the tables turned. You’re not strangling a dead chicken.
NO TEETH. Seriously? Do I have to tell you this? The guys said YEAH I DO have to, because ladies out there are still playing human grater. YIKES!
Keep the teeth outta sight. Sure some men like a VERY little sensation of teeth, but NOT many and if you aren't really good at what you're doing yet, then don't scare the poor man. Keep those puppies away from him.
DON'T BE AFRAID TO ASK FOR COMMENTS. Don’t just hope for the best. If your man doesn’t seem to be over the moon - what? Is he in a coma? - then feel free to ask him if there is anything you could improve on. The whole idea is to give pleasure, as I’m SURE he will be doing in return. Communication can only make it better.
Remember, this is the tip of the iceberg..
Lora Somoza is a sex columnist. For more hot tips, sign up for Lora's free newsletters or get a copy of her book, "Bliss in the Bedroom: A Real Woman's Guide to Better Sex." Both are available at www.blissinthebedroom.com.
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Confidence is Key: Just as your insecurity rings out like an alarm, your confidence will hit him like a bolt of lightening.
God! I like the way you wrote it.... there was some things that i didn't know.
thanx...
but there is one other thing... the wet thing that comes out from the penis after getting hard(I don't know what is it call !!), how could I avoid it?? it taste awkward,but not bad.... is it harmful to mouth??
if I use my tongue, it is impossible to avoid it... what can i do then?????
By Romena Priti
Dec
29
you give a difficulty 2/5, but in my experience 0 out of 10 girls know how to give a blowjob. whenever one of my male friends comes across such a knowledgeable girl (which might be once in 5 years for one out of the 10 or so guys) its topic number 1 and everyone will listen with awe and even after years refer to this girl like "uhhh you talking about the girl that knows how to give head? :-)" ... you're article is nice and defense, but I would like to read something more substantial, like teaching material ...
By Buggs Not
Mar
8
Hey lora,
I really liked ur article, u've explained things nicely. I've a query can u answer my question. When i'm trying to give blow job to my boyfren, he tels that am not doing properly means i'm not using my tongue properly itseems. am not knowing how exactly i should do. can u explain me in this regard.
thanks,
Lovely
By lovely gal
Nov
19
No hands on the shaft, except to steady it. Remember it is ORAL sex. That means with the mouth. You will never be able to give aguy as good of a hand job as he can give himself. Only use your mouth.
By Bob Patiño
Sep
29
Some great ideas. www.blowjobsecrets.net has a great video series about this as well.
By cheryl khanna
Sep
15
Great article...
By Terence Van Essendelft
Mar
25
i'm hoping to give my Boyfriend a blowjob for his birthday this week, and as i've never done this kinda thing before (and he's getting quite excited at the prospect) this article has helped me get my head round it, so to speak.
thanks
By Zara Jones
Dec
31
I think that this will cover the issue from A-Z. Nothing was left except your imagination
thanks a million
By F K kore
Dec
22
Hello Lora Somoza,
At first I was taken aback by your step by step procedure on the oral sex activity.
Then, after a thought, I found that your kind of advice is necessary for the following reason. I read an article in a newspaper that a German couple who complained to a Doctor/sexologist that they are not having babies. After sufficient tests, the Doctor found nothing wrong with them physically. But to his surprise, he inferred that the couple were not having sex at all, but they were lying together side by side and expecting to conceive just by lying down. SO YOUR SERVICES ARE STILL NEEDED IN THE WICKED WORLD.
Best Wishes,
happy man
By happy man
Dec
20
It is encouraging to read about such a subject from a woman's point of view; to tell the truth, I praise the author's courage, openness and sincerity. Rather than enjoy sex, most sisters will either play dumb about the issue or pretend to be the Virgin Mary. I wish a lot of sisters would read this wonderful piece and place good and healthy sex where it belongs. BRAVO SISTER.
By Bassey Effiom
Dec
15
Sounds straight out of Cosmo. There's nothing new here.
By Meave Gallagher
Nov
30
Makes me tingle like climbing the rope in gym class... didn't know this site accepted articles of this nature!
By John L. McKinley
Nov
2
It is refreshing to hear from a lady who actually is interested in pleasing a man. So many articles out there talk about our flaws and how we need to straighten up. So, it's nice to know that there are women who are actually still interested in trying to work with us on our relationship.
By Michael Allen
Oct
15
Excellent article, I like the way you resume and put it in simple steps. You are right, it shouldn't be complicated when we are talking about to feel and give pleasure.
By Alexandra Castillo
Oct
11
Yet another excellent article. Who wouldn't like this one? *digged it*
Comments
God! I like the way you wrote it.... there was some things that i didn't know.
thanx...
but there is one other thing... the wet thing that comes out from the penis after getting hard(I don't know what is it call !!), how could I avoid it?? it taste awkward,but not bad.... is it harmful to mouth??
By Romena Pritiif I use my tongue, it is impossible to avoid it... what can i do then?????
you give a difficulty 2/5, but in my experience 0 out of 10 girls know how to give a blowjob. whenever one of my male friends comes across such a knowledgeable girl (which might be once in 5 years for one out of the 10 or so guys) its topic number 1 and everyone will listen with awe and even after years refer to this girl like "uhhh you talking about the girl that knows how to give head? :-)" ... you're article is nice and defense, but I would like to read something more substantial, like teaching material ...
By Buggs NotHey lora,
By lovely galI really liked ur article, u've explained things nicely. I've a query can u answer my question. When i'm trying to give blow job to my boyfren, he tels that am not doing properly means i'm not using my tongue properly itseems. am not knowing how exactly i should do. can u explain me in this regard.
thanks,
Lovely
No hands on the shaft, except to steady it. Remember it is ORAL sex. That means with the mouth. You will never be able to give aguy as good of a hand job as he can give himself. Only use your mouth.
By Bob PatiñoSome great ideas. www.blowjobsecrets.net has a great video series about this as well.
By cheryl khannaGreat article...
By Terence Van Essendelfti'm hoping to give my Boyfriend a blowjob for his birthday this week, and as i've never done this kinda thing before (and he's getting quite excited at the prospect) this article has helped me get my head round it, so to speak.
thanks
By Zara JonesI think that this will cover the issue from A-Z. Nothing was left except your imagination
By F K korethanks a million
Hello Lora Somoza,
At first I was taken aback by your step by step procedure on the oral sex activity.
Then, after a thought, I found that your kind of advice is necessary for the following reason. I read an article in a newspaper that a German couple who complained to a Doctor/sexologist that they are not having babies. After sufficient tests, the Doctor found nothing wrong with them physically. But to his surprise, he inferred that the couple were not having sex at all, but they were lying together side by side and expecting to conceive just by lying down. SO YOUR SERVICES ARE STILL NEEDED IN THE WICKED WORLD.
Best Wishes,
By happy manhappy man
It is encouraging to read about such a subject from a woman's point of view; to tell the truth, I praise the author's courage, openness and sincerity. Rather than enjoy sex, most sisters will either play dumb about the issue or pretend to be the Virgin Mary. I wish a lot of sisters would read this wonderful piece and place good and healthy sex where it belongs. BRAVO SISTER.
By Bassey EffiomSounds straight out of Cosmo. There's nothing new here.
By Meave GallagherMakes me tingle like climbing the rope in gym class... didn't know this site accepted articles of this nature!
By John L. McKinleyIt is refreshing to hear from a lady who actually is interested in pleasing a man. So many articles out there talk about our flaws and how we need to straighten up. So, it's nice to know that there are women who are actually still interested in trying to work with us on our relationship.
By Michael AllenExcellent article, I like the way you resume and put it in simple steps. You are right, it shouldn't be complicated when we are talking about to feel and give pleasure.
By Alexandra CastilloYet another excellent article. Who wouldn't like this one? *digged it*
By Patrick Smith