Naughty and stubborn children are such a pain. Sometimes they listen, sometimes they don’t. You can’t even be sure if they can hear you or are simply ignoring you. Cute as they are, they can be very irritating. A common mistake with teachers and parents is that they get irritated and reprimand the child in every mistake that he makes. Before getting angry, observe them first. It is possible that these children have behavioral problems, and an unmanageable child may have more than just one behavioral problem. The technique here is to isolate these behaviors and resolve one after the other.
Here are tips on how to handle multiple behavior problems in children:
- Determine what kind of behaviors the child is exhibiting. Observe him for a day or two. Keep your patience up because it may not be as easy as you hope it will be. It may seem just one behavior, when in fact, it is not. His present behavior is most likely the sum of all multiple behaviors combined. When you finally get to isolate these behaviors, do not try correcting them all at the same time. Nothing will come out of doing this.
- Identify each behavior. For example, when you talk to your child, he can’t stay still nor stand still and keeps fooling around. You may think that the child lacks respect to authority. Then there are times when he seems hyperactive, running up and down the house, shouting all the way. These behaviors are symptoms of ADHD or attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. Did his teacher complained about his grades and performance in class? Poor academic performance can be a result of inability to focus, which is also a sign of ADHD. Kids who suffer from ADHD need to be checked by a professional. However, if it is just a simple case of poor grades, non-compliance and stubbornness then you can solve this.
- Have a heart to heart talk with your child. Focus on one or two behaviors at a time. Tell him what you expect him to do and that what he is doing is wrong. Specify exactly what is wrong and why. Ask him what bothers him and settle whatever internal issues he has. It might be with friends, classmates, siblings or you. The child may refuse the help that you are giving him and just unleash frustration in your part. And when one is resolved, then proceed to the next behavior. Apply a proper solution to each behavior. Moreover, start with the most disturbing behavior of all.
- Reward your kid for the positive changes in behavior. Observe him for a day and see if he has changed for the better. Sometimes you still need to remind him of the talk that you had. If he complies, treat him with an ice cream. Or you can allow him to stay late at night to play or watch his favorite cartoon.
As days go by, watch your child grow and develop new behaviors. And if there are behaviors that need to be corrected, talk to him. There are times when all a kid needs is love and attention.