How To Have a Loving Relationship

Remember this "how to" is subjective. What works for one person may not work for all. I have been married for six years. Everyday I feel closer and closer to my husband. I couldn't imagine life without him.

Here are some pointers that work for my husband and me:

1. You and your spouse must be best friends. Let no one else come between the 2 of you. You must act as a cohesive and well-functioning unit.
2. Never ever keep secrets from each other! Tell each other everything, no matter how trivial or troubling.
3. Never go to bed angry. Yes, it does sound old and cliched, but there is a fundamental truth to the saying. You never know what could happen to you or your partner from when you close your eyes to the first moment when you open them again.
4. Talk, talk, talk...Talk about everything from 401k plans to what is for dinner to how you really feel about that tacky painting hanging in the dining room.
5. Tell him you love him. Never get tired of telling your partner you love him.
6. Always make time for each other. No matter how busy you are or what responsibilities you have, always make time for each other, whether it be a full-on date night or 5 minutes of cuddling at night.
7. Take time for yourself. Even though you act as one cohesive unit, make sure to make time for yourself. Take time to explore your own activities and interests. Take time to analyze your own needs and wants.
8. Don't make mountains out of molehills. You have to realize there will be arguments and small "meltdowns."  By no means is there such a thing as a perfect relationship. If you think there is, then you will never be happy. But please don't think you need a divorce just because he didn't like the blue dress you wore Saturday night and you think that there is an underlying motive because of it.
9. Be willing to meet in the middle. Compromise is paramount. If either you or your spouse has to have everything his/her own way, no one will be happy in the end.
10. Listen to what your partner has to say and take it to heart. Even if it is not blunt and to the point, listen to body language or tone of voice to glean his meaning. Always be tuned in to your partner.