How To Keep Romance Alive After Becoming Parents

If you are a new parent or even if you have a few years of parenthood under your belt you may find yourself wondering, "What happened? Where did the romance go?" This is very natural, your children are the light of your life and fill your every spare moment. Children demand your attention and your time, they depend on you for everything. And that is the way it is supposed to be. However you and your spouse may be feeling like you are loosing your romance and intimacy that you used to have. You may start seeing each other as a friend or a room mate. Here are some tips on how to keep the spark alive in your marriage after you have kids.

Romance and intimacy doesn't have to end because you have become parents. Your child is a blessing and should add to your life and take nothing away from your marriage. You and your spouse just have to be creative and put some effort into keeping the romance alive. Trust me, it can be done. I am the mother of 3 teenage girls so I know what I am talking about. Granted, it gets a bit easier as kids get older, but I lived through the early years too, so I know what you are feeling and going through.

To insure that your romance stays alive, take care of yourself. Keep up your looks as much as possible, show your spouse that you still care enough to want to look good for them. Leave little love notes laying around the house, or in your spouses briefcase for them to find. Write romantic suggestions on your bathroom or bedroom mirror for your spouse to find later.

Make a date night once a week. Even if your baby is too young to leave with a sitter or your budget doesn't have baby sitting and a night out in it, you can have your date nights. Use your imagination. Cook a nice meal or get take out. Make sure your child is in bed early, and eat your dinner with some soft music and candle light. After dinner maybe have a dance or two if you both enjoy dancing. Then snuggle up on the couch and watch a good romance or a comedy, if you'd prefer, watch a classic. The important thing is set aside a night to spend quality time together enjoying each other.

Put on your sexiest sleepwear and snuggle up in bed. Tell them how much you enjoyed the evening together. Let nature take it's course from there.

Always keep your line of communication open. Always show your appreciation for your spouse and let them know how attracted you are to them. The romance will stay alive, it just needs regular maintenance.