Whether you’ve been in a relationship for fifty years or five months, kick starting your love life is easier than you may think. Many times we forget the very simple recipe to romance that we all started our relationships on in the beginning. Through life’s busy schedules and kids activities or even getting over a recent breakup or divorce, we become so consumed with all the stressors life gives us. We’ve developed routines and ways of life that we have all become accustomed to. It’s time to break out of the old and step into the new. Grab a hold of your life, lift your head up and tell yourself, “Today I’m going to do something different!”
Try something new tonight with your partner. Be spontaneous. “If you’re not in a relationship and just getting through a breakup, I have some tips for you too.” But right now I’m talking to all of you in a relationship. Does it seem as if you’re always tired and can’t find the energy to get up and move? Do you look at your partner and wonder what happened to those times when you would laugh, joke, smile and flirt? Do you wonder where the romance has gone? Well truth is, it’s “sleeping.”
You need to take “control” and wake that “Love Bug” inside of you up. I want you to try and think of times when you and your partner were the happiest. Was it when you first got married or hooked up? Or maybe it was when you went on that dream vacation together in Paris and had a romantic dinner by candle light. Whatever the case may be, the great thing about it is, “You CAN relive it, without the cost!” For example: Try recreating a candle lit dinner at home, recreate the dinner or dessert you shared that night, or even the same bottle of wine you shared. Surround yourself with little keepsakes from that vacation such as pictures the two of you took there, or music you listened to while sipping that wine. Make it as memorable as the first time. Hey, chances are your partner will feel the same way he/she did that very night. You’ve taken that step to refreshing your lives and walking down memory lane, sparking old memories and making new ones that the two of you can share for years to come.
By trying something like this, you show your partner that you’re still very much into him/her. It’s a breath of fresh air for the both of you, a break in the monotony of life. Of course, you can come up with other ideas like this that will fit your budget. For example: try looking through boxes of keepsakes you’ve kept over the years. Read those old birthday or anniversary cards you received. The object is to relight that fire inside of you. Remember those carefree filled with fun days. They’re inexpensive and in some cases free, all it takes is time that so many of us forget to give.
Alright! Now I’m talking to all of you out there who are sulking and depressed over a new breakup or divorce. Now don’t get me wrong! I can empathize with you, I’ve been there. You on the other hand, are having the hardest time letting go of all those love letters and keepsakes from your ex. Right now your memories are all you have. Well I have news for you! “SNAP OUT OF IT.” Repeat this line after me, “I never have to relive my past again.” - That’s the beauty of having a past, it stays there. We don’t have relive it every day that we wake up, it‘s not our present. Think to yourself - It’s time for me to get a hold of me and live for me. Yes it’s a bit narcissistic, the whole “me-myself &I” theory but its ok. You need to heal you first. Worry about you and your happiness, learn to love yourself again and stop blaming yourself. Don’t do the, “Should have, could have, & would have.” Instead I want you to try something new. I want you to do the “I will do, I can do, and I’d love to” lines. Start thinking positive.
Get up and do everything different today. For example, try a new flavor shot in your coffee. Put a little kick back into your step. Or try another color of lip gloss or lip stick for you ladies. Try something wild. For you guys get out there and buy yourself a new bottle of cologne, or comb your hair a different style. I don’t care if you decide to go to work in flip flops. The point is, do something different from your normal routines. Get out of that funk and remember who you are as a person. Not as a father, or a mother, sister, or brother, or even who you are as an employee or a partner. But rather “Who you are as an individual.” Be your own person. Rejuvenate your senses, your mind and your spirit. Get all those mushy love songs off your ipod and replace them with something you can groove and shake it to. Go ahead and have that long awaited lunch or cup of coffee with friends you just couldn’t find the time for when you were in a relationship. Get out there with your pals and stop by that dance club. Dance off all your worries and ill feelings. Learn to smile again from within, learn to laugh at silly things again. And most of all learn that with all things, “Time will heal, time will fulfill and time will get you right back to your old self again, if not; a much happier, healthier, wonderful, “You.” Welcome to the unique beginnings of your brand new life.
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