How To Know if You Should Wait to Have Sex

Sex is a natural part of life, but it can also be a very special experience between a man and a woman, especially the first time. When it comes to sex, everyone is different as far as preferences, experiences, and comfortableness. It's important to be able to recognize when it's right for you to start having sex and when it's okay to wait.

The most important thing to keep in mind is that no one can make the decision to have sex for you. The choice is solely up to you. Don't let anyone force you into it or try to convince you its right if you feel like you should wait to have sex. In the end, you know yourself better than anyone else, so if you don't feel ready, then don't let anyone tell you that you are.

The number one clue that you should wait to have sex yet is if it makes you uncomfortable. If you can't imagine yourself having sex or if you get too uncomfortable just thinking about it then you're not ready to do it. Don't confuse being uncomfortable with being nervous, though. It is perfectly normal to be nervous your first time and nearly everyone is, but there is a big difference between nerves and being comfortable. That uneasiness is your mind's way of telling you that it's best to wait. When the time is right, it won't seem so uncomfortable anymore.

Another way to know for sure that you should wait to have sex is if you have doubts. If it could go either way, you might be ready but you might not, it's always best to take the safest route and assume you aren't ready yet. Your first time is something you'll always remember and there are no redoes. You only get one shot at your first time, so make sure that you're absolutely sure you want to before you do it. If you're not completely sure, wait. You might thank yourself later.

Also, if you can't talk about sex with your partner, then chances are you're not ready to have it yet. You need to have a close enough connection with your partner to be able to trust them to lose your virginity to and to be able to seriously talk about having sex with. If it embarrasses you, it might be a good idea to wait a little longer.

On the other hand, if you feel that you're ready, but you don't have contraceptives readily available, you should also wait to have sex. Mistakes happen, and if you're not ready to be a parent, then don't put yourself in a situation where you would have to make that choice. If you're ready, make sure your contraceptives are, too. Without those, you're not fully ready either.