Leaving a relationship is always hard; you wonder if you have the strength to do it. You try to picture your life without your spouse and wonder whether you can handle it. If you are leaving a bad relationship it's even harder whether you are leaving because the both of you don't get along or because of physical or verbal abuse. To leave a bad relationship you need to start with a belief in yourself: that you are worth it and will be able to handle what lies ahead of you.
Before you make the step to leave the relationship, for your own peace of mind you need to know that you've done everything to try and make the relationship work. This will help to prevent you from playing the ping pong game and going back and forth. If you've tried to talk with your spouse and are unable to resolve your issues, if the both of you are fighting all the time or if there is physical or emotional abuse going on then the relationship needs to be ended before anymore damage is done.
First and foremost you need to have a support system. This will include family members, friends, co-workers and your pastor if you are involved with your church. Your support system will be there for you to help you every step of the way. They will provide you with insight on what needs to be done instead of you trying to handle it all on your own.
The next step that you will need to do is create a plan on how to leave. If you have friends or family members' homes where you can stay then you are ahead of the game. If you aren't so lucky then you will need to become familiar with the local shelters that are around you in case you need to use their resources. If there is only one car in your household and you don't want to chance taking it then be sure you either have a ride lined up or have memorized the phone number to a cab company.
Keep all of your personal belongings in a safe place. This should include your driver's license, social security card, bank account information, credit cards and anything else of importance. If you don't already keep them in a safe place then you need to either put them in a safe deposit box or somewhere else safe and hidden that you can get to in a hurry if need be.
If children are involved then you will need to be a little more careful and make sure that you are leaving legally. Try to do everything in your power to make the adjustment easy for your children.