There are practical reasons why some families think that they should have their elderly parents living with them. If you belong to a middle-class family, you will certainly think about the advantages this arrangement offers. The economy is still reeling and the cost of living has never been worse. Instead of appropriating another budget for your elderly parent’s house, you can save a lot more by letting her live with you. Aside from this, the older your parent gets, the more attention she will ask from you. This will require you to drive often to her place to find out her condition. If she lives in your house, you do not have to go through that inconvenience.
Naturally, this new arrangement will require you to make some adjustments. You have to deal with the usual grumpy attitudes of the elderly. However, there are ways that can help you make life at home easy and happy with your aged parent. The following are just some of the many tips you can follow.
- Before moving in, you should first sit with her and discuss the about the details of the arrangement. This is to avoid future conflicts resulting from disagreements over domestic matters. You should discuss the responsibilities over matters such as finances, services, utilities and how things in the house should be run.
- Show respect to the personal space of your elderly parent. You can tell the rest of the family to do the same. Make her bedroom private to her. You may also assign storage areas and containers in the house’s common areas such as the bathrooms and kitchen for her use.
- Include your elderly parent’s schedules in your weekly plan. Take note of her doctor’s appointments, scheduled visits to friends, shopping, and other activities that she is involved. This will prevent any instance when your parent makes a sudden request to drive her to her schedule. You should also make sure that you know when her prescribed medicines run out.
- Although you already have a plan, you should not expect it to work as it is. There are times when your elderly parent will want to do something you are not prepared for. She may ask you drive her to visit unexpectedly someone or she may just like to go out for a walk suddenly. You should be flexible when this happens. True, it requires a great amount of patience. However, if you do things out of love, this should not be a problem.
- Spend time with her. Set some hours in a week just to be with her. Make her feel how cherished her presence in the house is. Talk with her about the family. Make these moments as fun as possible. You may even ask the kids to do the same.
Your elderly parent is not a guest in the house. She is there because you simply want to show her your loving concern. All those steps mentioned above are easy to do as long as it is motivated by love.