How To Make Marriage Last a Long Time

Not only in the western societies, but also in the traditional societies marriages are becoming short lived. After few days, weeks, or years of marriage, couples are applying for divorce. This is not always because wives or husbands are abused, drunks, or criminals. The couples are well educated, professionals and highly paid. Let us see what may be the reasons for their separations and how to avoid them so that marriage can last a long time and be blissful.

1. Marriage should happen at the right age. In traditional societies or when society was traditional and conservative, parents would decide the marriage. Couples were very young, so husbands and wives had enough time for adjustment with each other. They had to live under the surveillance of elders. Elders would try to sort out any problem couples would face. But in advanced societies or when societies become advanced, many couples make their own decision on marriage. Before marriage they spend a good part of their youth in higher education and searching for lucrative jobs. Then they decide to marry. By this time they are well within their thirties. So they find it difficult for adjustment with each other. Therefore, if possible, marriages should occur in your twenties.
2. Know the reality before marriage. Before marriage, couples should think about the reality of marriage. Love and dating appears to be good and romantic. Because when you're young you don't have many responsibilities and are free to do as you please. But once you marry, things change. You are in bond or bondage for life. One observes every action of the other and it is natural that one can't appreciate all the actions of other. Here the question of adjustment arises. For this, marriage is sometimes called compromise or bondage. Couples should have prepared for this.
3. Sparing time for home and family. The highly professional couples get little time to be with each other. So they have little time to learn the process of adjustment. The little time they are together, sometimes or most of the time, they fight and quarrel with each other over small matters. So before marriage, couples should be prepared to spend more time at home to get to know each other, helping each other in household work like cooking, washing, cleaning, etc. 
4. Have children. Talk with your spouse and make sure you're on the same page about whether or not to have children. Oftentimes, the highly professional life doesn't always permit couples to raise a child. Once a couple has a child, they should make sure they still put effort into the marriage to make sure their love still grows. A couple should have sufficient time for home and children before bringing a child into the world. In order to get sufficient time, they shouldn't jump from one job to other in search of more and more pay. For getting higher pay one has to give more and more time at the work place.
5. Children are real wealth. Couples should remember that the real wealth is their offspring. They should work hard to make their offspring good citizens. Even world famous leaders, cine stars, pop stars or spots stars depend on their families.
6. Everybody loves himself. According to Indian scripture Upanishad - for fulfilling the requirements of husband, husband is not dear, but fulfilling the own requirements husband is dear. Similarly for fulfilling the requirements of wife, wife is not dear, but for fulfilling own requirements wife is dear. For fulfilling the requirements of son, son is not dear, but for fulfilling own requirements son is dear. So either husband or wife shouldn't be worried for the aloofness of the other partner. Even if one selects a new partner the same thing shall happen. So everybody should cast his/her role only.

Couples shouldn't break up their married life over petty matters. At least for their own safety and security of life, they should continue with their marriage and family.