Most people do not really want to think about and accept that we will all perish in time. Death is a certainty for all. Nevertheless, people still neglect how they will go out. This ignorance consequently delivers the responsibility of the final arrangements to the family and loved ones left behind which inadvertently adds more stress and sorrow to the grieving. The underlying reason for this ignorance and unpreparedness is that no one really wants to talk about it. However, if you seriously reflect on it, preparing for your physical departure from the living can greatly ease the sorrows that your family and friends will feel when the time comes. You should prepare for the finish line as this can come sooner than you think.
- Family and friends. Preparations for death should be done with all the family members included. If you do not have family, include your closest friends instead. It is normal for them to object and try to change the subject since it is a pretty dark topic to discuss. You must convince them and make them accept that you will surely die at a particular time. Reason with them that when that time comes you want to be prepared.
- Letters or videos. Upon your death, your family and friends will feel much better if you leave them a letter or a video of you while you were alive talking about how they should proceed with their lives now that you are gone. Focus on how special they are and on the happy times you shared with all of them. Remember to make a list of people you want to be notified on your death as well so that your family or friends watching your video or reading your letter will know what to do. Include any final arrangements as well in the list or video.
- Obituary and gravestone. As early as now, it would be wise to write down what you want your obituary and gravestone to say. Normally, these would describe who you were during your lifetime in short and concise phrases.
- Lawyer and will. Prepare the legalities with a lawyer. Make a will, a living trust, and choose who will execute your will for you. Normally, you will want the lawyer to be the one to handle the distribution of your estate based on your will for you. It is entirely up to you. Make sure that you and your lawyer go through every asset you have and who you will leave it to. Entrust all vital information that your family and lawyer will need to execute your will and estate once you are gone. If possible, include your family in this as well.
- Insurances. Check with your life insurance providers and make sure that your family will have enough financial stability when you leave.
- Funeral provider. Choose an excellent funeral provider. Make sure to check for references. If you have insurance that includes death benefits, make sure to check if the funeral provider can credit the benefits. Buy a casket as well. If you are strapped for cash, you can buy it on lay-away as most funeral providers will offer this service.
- 7. Burial plot. If you do not have a particular burial plot, purchase one as soon as you can. These can be expensive but most funeral providers will offer it on installments.
Final arrangements can be hard to deal with, but if you prepare them beforehand it can greatly ease your family’s grieving when you leave them. It is important to remember that you have to take care of both legal and personal matters so that your family won’t have to. Now, you can go on to the next life with no more worries.