It may not kill you, but a broken heart can make you feel like a part of you has died. Resurrecting that part and moving on, however, is possible if you know how to mend a broken heart. It will not be easy and you will be tempted to simply nurse your broken heart to bitterness, but moving on is the only option if you want to live to the fullest. Here’s how you can mend a broken heart.
- Time. Time heals all wounds, including broken hearts. Various types of people will take various times to get over their heartbreak. It may take as little as a few weeks, and it may take as long as a few months. For some people, heartache can last for up to several years especially if they have been in a relationship for a very long time. The important thing, however, is to recognize that you are recovering. Avoid the slump as much as possible, and realize that one of the most important features of time is change. Allow yourself to change for the better. Change, in the end, is another way of moving on.
- Talk. Communicating with others will help you to process your thoughts and your emotions. Some break ups are messier than others. If you have experienced one of these, do not keep the stress and problem all to yourself. Allow yourself to confide in a trusted friend. If you cannot talk to your friends at first, at least let them console you with their presence. Do not coop yourself up in the bedroom or in the house. Try to spend some time with friends after work in the bar. You may find yourself unable to speak first, but eventually you will have the courage to tell them how you feel.
- Forgive. Forgiveness can be one of the most difficult acts to do especially since heartbreak often comes with immense feelings of betrayal. However, moving on is only possible when you forgive the other and yourself. Keep in mind that the both of you are only humans, and that asking for endless love is one of the first follies of youth. If the both of you did your best, then there is nothing to be ashamed of. Some things will end not because the end has been provoked or because something wrong happened, but because it is simply time for the relationship to end. Realize that even relationships have life spans and are mortal creatures that will eventually need to rest.
- Open yourself up to others. Finally, move on by allowing yourself to meet with new people. This can be difficult especially if you have been traumatized by your heartbreak. Keep in mind, however, that feelings of pain are only signs that you are alive and that you are human. In the end, however, the best way to mend your broken heart is to realize that love is something that is worth every minute of even if it will only last for so long. Just because a love affair has ended, however, does not mean that you should not allow another love to enter into your life.
Moving on and mending a broken heart is never easy. It will get better with time however, and it will strengthen you and help you nurture future loves with the knowledge that things end and that every moment is precious.