Married life can be a challenge, especially after the honeymoon stage. The getting-to-know you part will be over by this time, and you and your wife will be familiar with each other’s quirks. However, this does not mean that you should focus on the negative. You should be able to focus on the positive side, all the more. Sometimes love does not mean swooning over someone or having your heart skip a beat. It’s often being constantly aware of the other person, and doing the little things to let her know you care. Initiate kindness and generosity, and be there for her. Whatever personality your wife has, she will surely appreciate a husband who will pamper her.
Pampering your wife will involve different things, depending on your situation. Here are a few ideas that might help.
Take care of the kids. Modern parenting is often a shared responsibility. However, during infanthood, it’s often the mother who wakes up in the middle of the night to put a crying baby to sleep. Offer to do this for her. She will surely appreciate the good night’s rest. With bigger kids, you can offer to prepare their school things, such as their packed lunch, while the wife enjoys her breakfast.
Prepare meals. Try to bring out the inner chef in you. Let your wife rest, while you prepare the day’s meals. This can be a particularly good idea during weekends. You can treat the whole family to a barbecue at the backyard. Then, be sure to clean up afterward!
Go out on a date. Husbands and wives often don’t have enough time as a couple, especially with a lot of concerns, like the kids, work, chores, and the like. Go out on a date once in a while. Treat her to a nice dinner at a nice place. It may be formal, or it might be a cozy, casual place. What’s important is that you both enjoy. If you have more time to yourself, you can even go on a dinner date on a boat or a bay cruise. It shouldn’t take too much time from your other responsibilities at home.
Go on a vacation. However, if you do have the time, and if the kids are big enough to take care of themselves, then you can take the wife to a vacation. You can go island hopping at a tropical beach, or skiing at a mountain resort. If it doesn’t cost too much, then you can bring the whole family along. Just be sure to set a different itinerary for the kids and for yourself, so you and the wife can have some time alone.
Give her a massage. She has probably worked hard at the office all day, and spent a couple of hours preparing dinner and cleaning up after. Why not give her a massage at bedtime? This can help her relax, and will surely soothe her nerves. A good back rub will melt away all worries. Who knows, this might even lead to something else?
A married couple needs to forget their other responsibilities every once in a while, and focus on themselves. This would help foster a healthy relationship built on trust and togetherness.