It may seem like there is no place for a woman over the age of 40 who is newly single to find a date. You've been married for many years and suddenly you find yourself single again. How do you start dating again, and most importantly, how can you screen your dates?
- Socialize. A newly divorced woman over 40 should return to the dating scene at her own pace by socializing in whichever ways she feels comfortable with. Some great ways to meet men for a woman over 40 are to join a club or gym, get set up by friends, try online dating, go to sporting events, attend church, adopt a dog to walk in the park, or take a new class. Most importantly, be active and get out there.
- Have fun. Don't talk about your ex-husband or intense commitment on the first date. It's important to have fun and not take things too seriously in the beginning.
- Give yourself a makeover. Take time to groom yourself, be polite, punctual and relax. This isn't a job interview. If it doesn't work out, it's not the end of the world.
- Wait a while before becoming intimate. Don't have sex until you've done your homework on your date. Learn as much information about your partner as possible, which will also help the conversation flow to topics of interest. Learn about his family, pets, favorite foods, birthday, favorite movies, etc., which are great topics to find out whether or not you will be compatible long term. In addition, ask to phone him at home to make sure he isn’t married or already committed.
- Be picky. If you see any red flags when dating, get out. A woman over 40 is mature and has life experience under her belt, so she should be extremely picky about who she chooses to spend her time with.
- Don't give out too much personal information. Dating has changed tremendously in the past 10 years. In this dangerous world of dating, a newly divorced woman should be careful not to give out too much personal information in the beginning. An ounce of prevention can prevent a lifetime of heartache. A background check and a search by googling a person's name or by searching through the WomanSavers.com database may give insightful information about a person.
In a world of murderers, thieves, child molesters and con artists, it is important that women protect themselves. We do a credit check before lending money, or inspect our homes and cars before purchasing; personal relationships are much more important with so much more at stake. 57% of all rapes happen on dates.* Women, especially single mothers, are vulnerable in the online world where dangerous men can easily hide behind aliases. 82% of all child sex abuse is committed by men in a relationship with the mother.* The typical child sex offender molests an average of 117 children, most of whom do not report the offense.* (*source: Monterey Rape Crisis Center www.mtryrapecrisis.org/statistics)
Newly single women over the age of 40 can have just as much fun re-entering the dating field. With some patience, a little bit of research and common sense, age will simply become a number.
Author, Stephany Alexander
CEO/Founder http://www.WomanSavers.com, World's Largest Database Rating Men