Over 50 years ago, people would have found the idea of drive-through marriages absolutely absurd. But not this time! These days everything is fast. We have become accustomed to fast food on weeknights. At the grocery, you will find almost everything has "instant" in it. Instant cooking oats, instant noodles, and the list goes on.
I believe that a lack of patience also has to account for a lot of broken marriages these days. People no longer take the time to get to know their partner. As a result, years (or even just months) after the marriage, most are ready to call it quits and readily sign the divorce papers. Months after the divorce, they’re back in the dating scene. Let’s spare ourselves from these difficult and downright heartbreaking situations. Make an honest assessment of how prepared are you in all aspects before you decide to tie the knot.
Do you take accountability for your own actions? Or do you find it easy to look around and pass the buck when things go wrong? If you are not prepared and things go wrong along the way, you may find yourself constantly blaming your partner instead of looking inside and finding out where you fell short as well. If you are on the other end, and you are always being blamed for every misunderstanding or every crisis, no matter how mature you are, I’m sure there will come a time when you will say you've had enough.
Marriage is a partnership. Yes there will be times when we are faced with a hurdle but from the vantage point of two mature individuals, these are things that will strengthen the marriage, not something you blame your partner for. On that note, you should also be happy on your own. Completeness is not something that you find in another person (contrary to what Jerry Maguire said). Marriage is entered into by 2 people who feel complete on their own.
Next, how financially stable are you? With the current financial global crisis, experts say that one has to have at least 8 months' worth of their salary in savings in the bank to be considered financially sound. When you enter into a marriage, you will have to be responsible for someone else aside from yourself. Pregnancy, sickness, and robbery, death in the family, accidents, and loss of job – these are some of the things you will have to be prepared for just in case.
Next on the list is religion. If you and your partner have different beliefs and no one would like to convert to the other's religious belief, that may be okay. Just have an agreement that you will not enforce your beliefs onto each other. Nonetheless, it is always easier if you both have the same religious belief, especially if both partners are mature spiritually. If you have checked all these things and found a close enough match, then you can truly say you are truly ready.
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