How To Lose your Virginity

If you are a virgin, you may be feeling a lot of pressure to have sex for the first time. If you think you’re ready for it, and this is a big decision, here’s how to lose your virginity and have safe sex for the first time:

1. Wait for the right partner and time. Do not find a girlfriend or boyfriend just because you want have sex. Wait for the right time, and ask yourself whether the relationship is steady enough; sex affects every relationship. Do not let yourself get pressured into having sex. Wait until you are ready, and until your partner is ready. There is no right age to start having sex. What matters is whether it is the right time for you.
2. Use protection. Birth control or condoms are the two most commonly used ways to prevent unwanted pregnancies. However, you should be aware that birth control pills do not protect you against STDs; only a condom can do that. It is especially important not to have unprotected sex if you think your partner may have STDs. Ask about your partner’s sexual history before having sex with them. Many people who don’t have condoms ready will try just using the “pulling out” method, where the man pulls his penis out just before climax so that no semen is released into the vagina, but this is not a reliable method to protect against either unwanted pregnancies or STDs. If you are considering having sex, you should buy condoms now, so that you have them when you need them.
3. Relax. Most people are anxious the first time they have sex. Relax, and don’t feel embarrassed about how you look. Especially the first time you have sex, make sure it is somewhere private, so you don’t have the added worry about being disturbed or discovered. Be aware that the first time you have sex, it may not go as planned or be enjoyable for both people. Although you may not realize it now, sex can take practice to feel good for both partners. There are a number of different positions to try before you find what works best for both of you.
4. Go slowly. Even if you have decided to have sex, that doesn’t mean that this is all you can do with your partner. Kissing and touching are often just as enjoyable. This stimulation can also help sex go smoother once it finally happens. First time sex often hurts, and some girls bleed a little bit. Lube can make things go smoother, too.
5. Understand how sex changes things. Don’t be afraid to talk to your partner about sex, both before and after it happens. In fact, if you do feel uncomfortable discussion it with them, you may not be ready for sex. Be aware that your relationship will probably change after having sex, and you will feel differently around them.

If you’re ready to lose your virginity and have safe sex for the first time, the most important thing is to understand what you are getting yourself into. This is a big step, and it is not without risks. Sex can change your relationship, and also carries the risk of unwanted pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases.