You are friends with someone, who is also your crush. How do you ensure that the other person does not write you off as just another friend to call and turn to in times of need? How do you ensure that you will stay out of the rut that people call the Friend Zone?
There is no surefire way to stay out of the Friend Zone. Otherwise, men and women would not be friends at all. But here are some tips to help you stay in the game and out of the Friend Zone.
- Flirt lightly. Give the object of your interest a once-over and make sure that he or she catches it. Smile a lot and try to establish eye contact several times. Light touches while chatting, doling out sincere compliments, and listening intently to what your crush is saying are sure-fire ways to let your crush know that you are flirting with them. However, keep your flirtations light, unless you want your crush to think of more intimate things. Remember that the point of all your flirtation is to plant the seeds of attraction and make your crush have second thoughts about keeping you limited to friendship.
- Do not be at your crush's beck and call. In short, do not be too available. It is okay to help your crush do manual labor every now and then, such as cleaning the house, running some errands, or fixing leaky faucets. But do not make it a daily habit. As much as possible, you want to avoid being on her speed dial for mechanical problems around the house.
- Similarly, you do not want to be the guy or the woman that your crush talks to when she or he is having an emotional crisis, say a problem with their current relationships. If your crush is really an emotional wreck, come over for a while to talk and make your crush feel a little better about himself or herself. However, make sure that you do not linger long enough to give your crush a chance to unload his or her emotional baggage on you.
- Always be the "Fun" friend. As someone who knows your crush's hobbies, interests, passions, and values, you can cook up a lot of ways to plan fun activities for the two of you. What you're aiming for, at this point, is to be that someone who can give your crush a good time in spite of the fact that you are not together. If your crush is having a fun time with you, chances are he or she will crave and seek your company even though she has other friends.
The tips given above have worked a countless number of times and have brought many couples together. However, there is no guarantee that they will work all the time. As such, you must be prepared for the eventuality that your crush just wants to stay friends with you.