Let's say you have often been pushed around in life. You tend to just go with the flow and deal with the consequences as they come. You don't often have a care what happens, as long as you are okay. Basically, you are living for the day. But what if that time comes and you realize that this life is getting you nowhere; that you haven't fulfilled any of your dreams in life, you see how much you have fallen down and now you can't get back up. What can you do?
First don't be a victim of circumstance. More often than not there are people who feel beaten down by circumstances and blame external factors for their failure. They blame society, their peers, the expectations set before them as the things that brought them down. But there are more reasons for people to feel downtrodden in life. A death in the family, constant failures at work, breaking up with a boyfriend or girlfriend are some reasons for someone to feel down.
How can you take charge of your life after all that has happened? One quick remedy is to see a therapist. These people will give you advice on how to pick up your life after all the problems have happened. It is easy to see that you can pick yourself up, but it is harder to actually do it. If you want to take charge of your life, you have to mean it and let it not be something you just said because you just felt like saying it. It should be the start of something new and better for you; it is an affirmation that you are now ready to take on life's challenges head on.
First you have to acknowledge that you have a problem. Much like an alcoholic or an addict, the first step to being a better person (or in this case taking charge of your life) is to admit you have stumbled. Once you admit that you have fallen down, then starts the process of getting back up.
Set a goal for yourself. Let's say you tell yourself six months from now you will find yourself a job. It doesn't have to be something like one year from now I will be a millionaire. Keep it simple and fairly achievable. It can be something simple like, next week I will go out with my friends and have a good time. Remember that taking charge of your life is a choice that you must make over and over again every day.
Analyze yourself. Are you ready? Do you think you still need time to prepare? No one knows you better than yourself. Critique or judge yourself; if you know you are not ready to take on challenges, take your time and prepare yourself. Do not try to rush things as this will only lead to you potentially making mistakes. Take small baby steps to something you want to achieve. Remember that success does not come overnight; you need commitment and determination to take charge of your life.